Truplaya Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I just found this site and decided to join! I just have a question, I am planning to become a Police Officer once I get out of College (currently in first year). But one of my main concerns about this occupation is regarding family life. So I just wanted to see in general, how many women wouldn't mind dating or even marrying a Cop?
Duckduckgoose Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Eh I wouldn't mind dating one. I am crushing on one right now. Not because he's a cop, he just happens to be a cop. The first time I saw him I had a physical attraction... but since he IS a cop: The things that I have been told to watch out for are a bit daunting though. Cops cheat on their women They work long hours Their jobs are stressful They tend to stuff their emotions because they're not supposed to talk about what they see They have control issues They might have bullying issues EGOS They are wife beaters They think they are above the law These are the negatives I have been advised to watch out for. One of my friend's husband is a retired State Trooper. She told me that her husband and police husbands in general have control issues and feel the need to be in charge all the time. That and they are kind of quiet for some reason (introspecting?). I imagine they are pretty jaded or cynical from all the **** they've seen. My tattoo artist (got my first tat last week) told me that all the police and MPs he knows, their wives are psycho and beat them! As far as I can tell, police are human beings. Yes there are going to be the ego maniacs, the cheaters, and the douchbags. Kinda sounds like just about every profession that men might have, huh? Police work is stressful, so his gf/wife would have to be very understanding... a lot of times there are cop/nurse cop/cop cop/teacher cop/EMT(paramedic) spouse partnerships. Why? I dunno... the cop/(medical field) thing makes sense. Police would have to guard against certain types of women only pursuing them because of their uniform. Admittedly, a man in a uniform is attractive to me... I wasn't attracted to this guy because he was a cop... that part made me take some steps back, a lot of them in fact. Some women are attracted to the "power" of being with a cop, some just have that cop fantasy (Lil Wayne anyone?). Or cops might feel attracted to the women that "need rescuing" which is a big big nono. Those kinds of people will only drag you down with them. For real, it would take a strong woman to marry a police officer. The ones that are attracted to the uniform or the power are doing it for the wrong reasons and will probably run when **** gets tough. This might contribute to the high divorce rate I've heard is present with law enforcement officials. It would be hard to know that every day your spouse goes to work might be their last day on the job I am glad you want to be an officer, but just be aware of the stigma some women have with dating an officer, and possibly some of the unworthy women that will be attracted to you just because you're an officer. GL!
lenny Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I would think unless the lady was a pot smoker or dishonest they wouldn't have a problem with your profession.
Nexus One Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Some advice here. Don't cuff someone and then taze them until they lose consciousness and then shoot them 5 times in the back of the head and then scream the US police mantra: "STOP RESISTING!" One would think that these things should go without saying, but hey, I just wanted to make that clear.
Author Truplaya Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Wow thanks for the replies! Very informative Yea I weighed all of the downsides to the job years ago, but we'll see what happens in the future. More opinions are welcome
Author Truplaya Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Some advice here. Don't cuff someone and then taze them until they lose consciousness and then shoot them 5 times in the back of the head and then scream the US police mantra: "STOP RESISTING!" One would think that these things should go without saying, but hey, I just wanted to make that clear. Im Canadian so hopefully that doesnt apply
Duckduckgoose Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I would think unless the lady was a pot smoker or dishonest they wouldn't have a problem with your profession. I am not a pot smoker or dishonest... but I do have a bit of a problem with "authority". I also am very aware of police brutality that officers get off with just a slap on the wrist. That would make any woman paranoid. Hell that would make any PERSON paranoid... law abiding or not!
Saphira Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 my biggest problem is the danger. I have never wanted to be with someone with a job that comes with extra danger. dont get me wrong i understand that there is danger that comes with everything and in everyday life. but with that stuff its like extra danger. I wouldnt want to because everyday i would be expecting the worst. i would be expecting to get that call or knock on the door saying my husband has been kille din the line of duty. I just dont want to be thinking of that everyday. but like i said eveything has risks, and you dont have to be a cop or in the army or sumthing to be killed or die. just theres always that worry because the possibility is higher.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 From what hot cop has told me, cops are packing so much heat on them and in their cars that I would be more worried FOR the criminals. Hell... he's got a huge ****ing rifle in his patrol car, a pistol on his waist, one in his boot... or strapped to his leg wasn't sure... and a gun in his normal car. There are probably more criminals killed than cops... not sure about that though. Usually in my city there is criminal deaths not cop deaths.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Don't taze me bro, don't taze me! AAAAAAAAAH!
Duckduckgoose Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 (edited) I don't think he showed me his tazer... Next time I see him Imma ask about that. "Can I see your tazer? Just don't whip it out on me please" Edited February 14, 2011 by Duckduckgoose Spelling
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