summers03984 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I met someone a couple of months ago, that lives a little over two hours away. We have seen each other about five times in the last two months. We just told one another we like each other, but have only hung out casually so far, no intimacy. I am a full time student, studying an area that is very difficult and new to me, and also work part time. I only have two days off each week, and have been using that time to study and relax. I don't feel I can juggle a long distance relationship with my current schedule. Am I being unreasonable and selfish, and thinking too much, or being mature and realistic, since I know myself and that it wouldn't make me happy and it's not what I want. This is someone I like, but don't feel I like enough to do this level of commitment. I wouldn't pass it up if we were in the same city, but given the current situation, it changes my decision.
folieadeux Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Sounds like you've already made up your mind. Better to be honest than to drag things out fully knowing it's not what you want. I think you're being very mature and realistic about things; you haven't committed to a relationship yet and don't seem to be all that emotionally invested in this guy so it doesn't really seem like it'd be that big of a deal to end things. It's my opinion that if this guy was really someone you were really that interested in, you wouldn't even have to ask...you would do everything you could to make it work, especially with such a short distance between you and the fact that you were able to see each other pretty regularly. I don't think any of us who are currently in LDRs ever purposely sought such a situation out. We met and it just happened because we were dedicated to making it work -- no matter what. Best of luck with school.
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