Tofu Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 So im in NC and forgot to take into account my ex still comes on fb frequently and now she just msged. I had already cut her off from everything and i didnt want to delete her from my fb incase she took it the wrong way in me nvr wanting to see her again (deep down i still want to get bk with her). Now were just generally seeing how each other is, what should i do? Tell her i want NC between us and that i need time to think and plan my future? Situation is now and advice would be greatly appreciated!!
spackle Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 NC also means NC via IM, MSN, FB. What did she say?
sammyd Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 NC means NC! So don't! lol Doesn't matter if she messaged you first or not really. How long have u been NC for?
Author Tofu Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 (edited) 'hey how are you?' and i just replied knackered then she started talking like her usual self and then i instantly closed my fb pretending my internet is down for now. right now i dont want to be her friend and i regret even answering, there were no hints of her missing me so i saw no reason to talk further. 4th day in a few hrs btw so not long enough i believe Edited February 13, 2011 by Tofu answer
gator12 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Go offline on chat immediately, say you need to go you have plans or something. Right now she is trying to set you up as a safety net. She will contact you for a few more days and then probably give up for a month. Then send a few texts to see if you are waiting for her etc. If you want her back you need to ignore all of these things, don't tell her your reason she doesn't have to know. Just get off of chat right now, and from now on be offline on chat whenever you are on facebook. 4 days is not enough time for her to miss you and more importantly it's not enough time for you guys to fix any issues in the relationship as well. Stay strong and stay in NC, ignore any texts and stuff that she sends you, even if they start getting angry or she says she "misses you". All of this is goading, none of it means anything until she says she wants to get back together with you. -Gator
Author Tofu Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Go offline on chat immediately, say you need to go you have plans or something. Right now she is trying to set you up as a safety net. She will contact you for a few more days and then probably give up for a month. Then send a few texts to see if you are waiting for her etc. If you want her back you need to ignore all of these things, don't tell her your reason she doesn't have to know. Just get off of chat right now, and from now on be offline on chat whenever you are on facebook. 4 days is not enough time for her to miss you and more importantly it's not enough time for you guys to fix any issues in the relationship as well. Stay strong and stay in NC, ignore any texts and stuff that she sends you, even if they start getting angry or she says she "misses you". All of this is goading, none of it means anything until she says she wants to get back together with you. -Gator Yeh ive done that now, just said im off to play pool with a flatmate and im offline now theres no way she can contact me other than phone. yeh i realized 4days is hardly anything really, and im more positive than i was these past few days which is making NC that bit more comfortable. Understood Gator, i wont be falling for any of that and if i feel a shred of doubt in me i will post any of these msgs up on LS and see how ppl interpret them
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