AD1980 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 We were getting food at a bar and grill maybe 15 of us and i start talking to this waitress just friendly i have no attraction towards her at all but women at our table start saying she likes me.At the end they tell her to give me her number she says no I wasnt into her at all, but i must be hideous if i cant even attract somebody like her.. God im a loser:laugh:
carhill Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Cruel games females play.... Two solutions... Stop hanging out with women, unless you're married and they're with their husbands. Ask women out who you *are* into, without prompting from third parties. That said, it's quite alright to sit here on the patio and talk about losers. Here's a beer ...
SteveC80 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Most women try to date up till they get less attractive and the biological clocks ticking.Truth is u probably have to wait till a womens desperate and wants a family and almost anyone will do
Author AD1980 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Cruel games females play.... Two solutions... Stop hanging out with women, unless you're married and they're with their husbands. Ask women out who you *are* into, without prompting from third parties. That said, it's quite alright to sit here on the patio and talk about losers. Here's a beer ... What cruel games? and the women there were married and with their husbands
Author AD1980 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Most women try to date up till they get less attractive and the biological clocks ticking.Truth is u probably have to wait till a womens desperate and wants a family and almost anyone will do Im 30 already and never been with anyone..Im giving up on love and finding women forever
carhill Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 What cruel games? and the women there were married and with their husbands Egging you on to ask the waitress out and saying she likes you and asking her to give you her number. The key aspect was *you* weren't married. All of my close friends are married and we socialize often and the wives have *never* done something like that in public. Perhaps it's a generational thing. So, to humor the thread, why was this waitress 'unattractive'?
Jazzari Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Im 30 already and never been with anyone..Im giving up on love and finding women foreverAnd that's usually when she will show up. Good luck.
carhill Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 LOL TBH, that only happens if/when the person is female. Men have to make their love lives happen, even if through chance encounters.
Author AD1980 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 So, to humor the thread, why was this waitress 'unattractive'? kinda geeky just nothing semi sensual or attractive about her Im not looking for 10's by any stretch but i need at least an ounce of attraction
Author AD1980 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 LOL TBH, that only happens if/when the person is female. Men have to make their love lives happen, even if through chance encounters. yeah men like me dont get approached
Imajerk17 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Look... --She might have a boyfriend. --You might be the 10th guy to hit on her this week. --There was nothing memorable about your interaction with her (as you didn't put much energy into it either). All very possible reasons as to why she didn't give you her number, that have nothing to do with your attractiveness to the opposite sex.
EasyHeart Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Every guy gets rejected sometimes -- even by ugly chicks! That's just part of life. You can't let it stop you from trying. Review what happened and see if there's anything you can learn from the experience that will help next time. Then shake it off and forget about it. You're never going to succeed at everything, and you're only a loser if that's what you want to be.
EasyHeart Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Also, keep in mind that waitresses get hit on ALL THE TIME! They are not there having fun; they're working and don't want to be bothered with guys hitting on them all the time. So you go dissed by one of the absolute hardest women to get a date with -- where's the shame in that?!?!
carhill Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 kinda geeky just nothing semi sensual or attractive about her Cool, thanks. How would you describe yourself at work? How is that guy different from, wrt mating signals, from the guy who was out dining with 15 friends? Would you have gotten the same response if you had asked her, yourself, for her number? Unknown. Something to try next time
Eeyore79 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I wouldn't give my number to a guy if we hadn't really talked or anything; I only give my number to a guy if I've gotten to know him a little and I like his personality enough to want to get to know him better. I also wouldn't give my number to a guy if his friends asked me to; firstly I'd think he's a wuss for not asking me himself, and secondly I'd be unsure if he actually wanted my number or whether they were just egging him on when he had no real interest in me. Neither of these reasons has anything to do with the guy's attractiveness. If he approached me himself and we got on well then I'd probably give him my number, but in a scenario where his friends asked for my number and he really hadn't even talked to me then I'd say no to the exact same guy.
Content Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 Doesnt mean youre ugly or below her on the social food chain,most women hot or ugly stick to their types usually
dispatch3d Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 your friends were kinda dickish for using you as entertainment (that's sure as hell what it sounds like). I couldn't ever imagine me asking a girl for another guy her number in front of so many people. I definitely wouldn't make it public. To be fair they probably have very little game, and are a little crass about being mindful of other people's feelings. You probably don't display how you are feeling very well to other people. I think if they realized they were actually upsetting you, then they would be more mindful of not stepping on your toes so much. Finally, as far as the pickup attempt went. Uhhh you barely had your heart in it to begin with! Haha you even said "I'm not that attracted to her anyways" AND you weren't hitting on her. She probably didn't feel particularly well-liked or anything. Anyhow, I think you just need to get more used to rejection. Life isn't an all or nothing game man. Ditto to hitting on waitress. ps. waitresses usually suck anyways.
Sweetie1977 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 As women were wired to find the best strongest mate for our offspring its kinda of arrogant as a ugly low status male to expect us to want to mate with you
Yamaha Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Don't you know that women find the connection and chemistry between a man and women to be the attraction trigger. Haven't you ever meet a women and you had an instant bond, you just flirt, talk and find each other so interesting? Look for these types of connections and then ask them on a date. Your odds are high b/c they don't happen often and people ( men and women ) take notice when they occur.
SteveC80 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Don't you know that women find the connection and chemistry between a man and women to be the attraction trigger. Haven't you ever meet a women and you had an instant bond, you just flirt, talk and find each other so interesting? Look for these types of connections and then ask them on a date. Your odds are high b/c they don't happen often and people ( men and women ) take notice when they occur. Looks are just as important to women as men,if hes ugly he has to try to create a bond with an ugly women whos at first looking to get a better looking guy but will settle
Yamaha Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Looks are just as important to women as men,if hes ugly he has to try to create a bond with an ugly women whos at first looking to get a better looking guy but will settle BS. All your advice is BS.
Yamaha Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 your tips are a joke. there straignt out of what females spew. males, kiss and ask for sex. that works. get a conection is joke. Do it your way then. Just my opinion.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Post a pic OP... We wimmens here will tell you if you're attractive. If nothing else you'll get an ego stroke.
mbm69 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 From my dating year, I remember only giving out my number to a stranger when we had spent an entire evening together at a bar or something. Actually, it maybe happened twice. I was always scared I would end up giving my number to a stalker. That may be something to consider. Also, I have always been attracted more towards a guy with a great personality or that was very engaging than a guy with great looks. One last thing, women like a guy that is obviously into them. You obviously weren't into this waitress, and it probably showed.
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