califsb Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I told her I need a break.. from the rollercoaster.. i took the step asking for a time out.. she was getting distant and kept saying does not want a R but was dating me and like certain parts of being with me. She was giving total mixed messages and is very confused and scared of another R. I said enough is enough and told her. she needs time as she kept saying to figure herself out.. Word is she is missing me but knows this time apart is what she needs to figure herself out. i have done NC. She is freinds with some of my friends.. (girls) and i know follows me on fb, I am working out twice a day.. moving on. most on line books and articles i read say 3-6 weeks of NC and then reach out as the new me... back to my old self and not the needy,, insecure guy i became. I feel totally empowered by taking the step away and she was a bit surprised... advice?
snug.bunny Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 When someone has no interest in a relationship or if they give you any verbal indication that its not something they are thinking of at the time, it is either because they have no interest in a relationship with YOU or the person has been hurt in the past and they are still gun shy. If you want her back, you can't push but instead be there for her as a friend. The problem with that though is that it puts you in a compromising position and it can turn into her seeing you as a friend ONLY. Whatever you decide ---- -do not put your feelings and wants/needs aside in the process.
Author califsb Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 She is afraid.. her last relationship was really bad and she met me right after.. she knows we have something amazing but has no time to heal... She wants to be friends but i am too invested and our interaction has been too much of a R. She keeps saying she needs time and i can do this right now.. does not want to lose me.. so i am stepping back let her have her girl time and check in with her in a few months.. as i live my life.
snug.bunny Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Yeah, we've all been there. I think you stepping back is good and its the right thing to do for yourself.
Author califsb Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Start NC then.. please love to hear the top ways and stories...
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