USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 So earlier today I participated in a charity run in DC where everyone runs a mile outside in their underwear. It starts and ends in a bar. I had an absolutely great time and probably drew more attention than I ever have in my life. I was getting lots compliments from random women, a lot of cameras in my direction, and people coming up to me asking to take a picture with them. I obviously thought it was really cool and just ate it up...I was perfectly happy being objectified as mere eye candy... But afterward when I went out again tonight and realized that the numbers I got from the run were either fake or just disinterested women, I realized that all the attention I got today was exactly the attention I did NOT want. I'm pretty sure everyone just viewed me as just a body with no substance... Sure, I got a lot of attention, but at the end of the day, I felt quite empty inside...and that has never happened like this before... Now I kind of understand the whole issue women have with being objectified...I'm willing to admit that I saw this little charity run as a potential avenue to meet a girl...and I used to think that I could use the physique to draw enough attention for a woman to gain initial interest to want to know more about me...but I'm starting to feel that the physique is probably giving them everything they want to know about me...fun to look and touch, but that's about it...like I have nothing else to offer... Although I had a fantastic time and met some great people, it was certainly a learning experience...I know these sorts of events are just for fun (and it certainly was fun!) and shouldn't be taken seriously, but I have to admit that it still kinda sucks...perception isn't always reality, but perception is definitely real... I'm just not sure where to go from here...
Titania22 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Maybe time to focus a bit on social activities that are also intellectual. Women can still appreciate your physical traits while interacting with you on an intellectual level. I like philosophy, personally, it really gets to the heart of how the individual participants see the world, and thus gives the opportunity for a meeting of minds.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Maybe time to focus a bit on social activities that are also intellectual. Women can still appreciate your physical traits while interacting with you on an intellectual level. I like philosophy, personally, it really gets to the heart of how the individual participants see the world, and thus gives the opportunity for a meeting of minds. Perhaps you're right. I certainly can't be taken seriously in my underwear... I'm just not sure what "intellectual" pursuits would interest me...
Titania22 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I'm just not sure what "intellectual" pursuits would interest me... Well trying to figure that out will be some fun for you, and also take your mind off women for a few minutes.
Ruby Slippers Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Put your shirt and pants back on. Then focus on meeting a girl you get along with while clothed. If you enjoy staying in such excellent physical condition, keep it up! Human bodies work better when they're in shape, strong, and agile. When the girl you get along with clothed finally gets her hands into your clothes, she's just going to be thrilled that not only are you a great guy, you're a great guy with a great bod.
january2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I'm just not sure where to go from here... I suggest using the same strategy: decide on what you want to be known for and look for opportunities to demonstrate it. You raised some money for charity, had a great time and you were handed a life lesson. Might not be the outcome that you wanted but still a good result, in my opinion.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 You raised some money for charity, had a great time and you were handed a life lesson. Might not be the outcome that you wanted but still a good result, in my opinion. You're definitely right about that...I think I was just frustrated for whatever reason and making the event out to be more than it really should have been... I really need to stop creating threads so late at night...
SmileFace Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I'm pretty sure everyone just viewed me as just a body with no substance No, you view yourself a body with no substance! You really need stop being so self loathing. You seem like a great guy, so what if you have a great body - why is this seen as a flaw?
Ay Diesel T Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I'm pretty sure everyone just viewed me as just a body with no substance No, you view yourself a body with no substance! You really need stop being so self loathing. You seem like a great guy, so what if you have a great body - why is this seen as a flaw? Because women judge you on your body type, respectively. Just as men do women. I know exactly what the OP is talking about.
johan Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 For Christ's sake, Hokie, how did you get through the Marines being such a bimbo? You should realize that getting attention from women, no matter how you go about getting it, isn't going to fix how you feel about yourself.
SmileFace Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 (edited) Because women judge you on your body type, respectively. Just as men do women. I know exactly what the OP is talking about. Whatever.. that is bull. It is bull when a woman says it and it is just sad when a man says it. I really want to know if you bothed washed your vaginas today. I don't mean to sound harsh but it isn't really how women view either of you. It is how you view yourselves. Stop blaming others. You can't walk around looking like a meat head and not expect to be treated as such.(See I wasn't serious with that comment - since it is bull) However, I don't know either of you. Besides by picture and ideas and I don't see either of you that way. But I do see that you guys see yourselves as that. If you want to change so much - just change. Edited February 13, 2011 by SmileFace
Ay Diesel T Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Whatever.. that is bull. It is bull when a woman says it and it is just sad when a man says it. I really want to know if you bothed washed your vaginas today. I don't mean to sound harsh but it isn't really how women view either of you. It is how you view yourselves. Stop blaming others. You can't walk around looking like a meat head and not expect to be treated as such.(See I wasn't serious with that comment - since it is bull) However, I don't know either of you. Besides by picture and ideas and I don't see either of you that way. But I do see that you guys see yourselves as that. If you want to change so much - just change. Lmao you mad? By the look of your post I bet your vagina is pretty sandy and stank! I kid I kid, but you have a valid point. But if I were to walk around with my shirt off people would just label me. So I take the humble approach.
Art_Critic Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 For Christ's sake, Hokie, how did you get through the Marines being such a bimbo? You should realize that getting attention from women, no matter how you go about getting it, isn't going to fix how you feel about yourself. Damn Johan.. great post...
Author USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 For Christ's sake, Hokie, how did you get through the Marines being such a bimbo? You should realize that getting attention from women, no matter how you go about getting it, isn't going to fix how you feel about yourself. Sometimes I wonder about this myself...
Author USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Damn Johan.. great post... Yea, he seems to be full of those, isn't he...
SmileFace Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Lmao you mad? By the look of your post I bet your vagina is pretty sandy and stank! I kid I kid, but you have a valid point. But if I were to walk around with my shirt off people would just label me. So I take the humble approach. Aww thanks , you are now my favorite person on LS. Anywho, I am not mad. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. The post wasn't suppose to come across as harsh but oh well.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Aww thanks , you are now my favorite person on LS. Anywho, I am not mad. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. The post wasn't suppose to come across as harsh but oh well. I know, you've always been tough on me. You and depp lover, my favorite women on LS.
SmileFace Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I know, you've always been tough on me. You and depp lover, my favorite women on LS. Does that come with a medal or something. If not I don't want it ... lol And wtf do girls in Florida usually walk around with sand in their crotches... that is just gross :lmao:
Author USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 No, you view yourself a body with no substance! No, I don't. I simply assume that that's what women see based on how they acted around me, and it frustrates me because I know I'm more than that. You really need stop being so self loathing. You seem like a great guy, so what if you have a great body - why is this seen as a flaw? I don't see it as a flaw at all...but others might and will pass judgment based on it...
Ay Diesel T Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Does that come with a medal or something. If not I don't want it ... lol And wtf do girls in Florida usually walk around with sand in their crotches... that is just gross :lmao: No medal but you could wear me around your neck. And I'm wondering the same thing myself, women are cat-ty out here. But it's pretty hot. As long as she's not catty with me, it's all good.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 I don't mean to sound harsh but it isn't really how women view either of you. It is how you view yourselves. Stop blaming others. You can't walk around looking like a meat head and not expect to be treated as such.(See I wasn't serious with that comment - since it is bull) Well the great thing about that event was that everyone was walking around in the same way. Women were flaunting their stuff just as much, if not more, than the guys...and I'm sure the guys were making their own judgments of these women... So it's not like I was going out of my way to portray the meathead...and I supposedly don't qualify for "meathead" status...
SmileFace Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 No, I don't. I simply assume that that's what women see based on how they acted around me, and it frustrates me because I know I'm more than that. If you know you are more than that - stop thinking that is how women may think. I am not saying some people aren't shallow but that isn't your problem. If these say women act like that do you even want them? I don't see it as a flaw at all...but others might and will pass judgment based on it... Who cares what others might think. All that matters is what you think. Well the great thing about that event was that everyone was walking around in the same way. Women were flaunting their stuff just as much, if not more, than the guys...and I'm sure the guys were making their own judgments of these women... So it's not like I was going out of my way to portray the meathead...and I supposedly don't qualify for "meathead" status... I am not calling you a meat head. sigh
tami-chan Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I was very cold for the participants-but I enjoyed watching the great bods (and not so great bods from a coffee shop- sipping coffee , with my honey:love:). Anyway, I think you take yourself too seriously,you should just enjoy yourself and the activities you partake in-...and yes, you really need to work on your self image. Having a relationship( and maintaining one) with other people will be a struggle until you have a better relationship with yourself.
Kaplan Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 . . . and realized that the numbers I got from the run . . . Wait. Where did you put the numbers? You had no pockets. Sorry, I tend to miss the point and focus on the wrong things. But I think it makes sense that people you meet whilst running in underpants aren't going to appreciate your other qualities. That's always been my experience at least! I hope nobody was wearing boxers . . . those penis-slots never close all the way. I can't imagine what they'd be like in the wind and everything.
tami-chan Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Wait. Where did you put the numbers? You had no pockets. Sorry, I tend to miss the point and focus on the wrong things. But I think it makes sense that people you meet whilst running in underpants aren't going to appreciate your other qualities. That's always been my experience at least! I hope nobody was wearing boxers . . . those penis-slots never close all the way. I can't imagine what they'd be like in the wind and everything. Yes, there were guys who wore boxers and they were "a-swinging"
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