sniperv1 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 In 2008 i started a work relationship with a coworker she worked in customer service and i was a factory supervisor she was coming off a long relationship that didnt end well and i was going threw a bad marriage and needed some excitement i guess it started off as flirting talking and a short time later started physical we continued for awhile and i felt myself having feelings for her as she did for me she would often ask me if i would ever leave my wife to which i never answered, about 6 months prior to this relationship my wife confessed she had a affair with another man she had met, i took it as well as anyone could, i figured this affair i was having would add the excitement i was missing in my life boy was i wrong, i continued the affair with the coworker till about may of 2010 she decided to end it because she felt i didnt love her enouph to leave my wife, i did fall inlove with this women and i was devestated when she ended it, i couldnt focus on my job anymore and felt that i needed a change of scenery and try to get her out of my head so i decided to jump to another company and start over, i left around june 2010, i started with the new company rather quickly figuring i could stop thinking about her, right away i knew i made a mistake the company i left for was very slimy and did illegal things that i did not want to be a part of about a month into the new job she emailed me to tell me she missed me and wanted to see me to which i did and all it did was make me feel worse for leaving my job in august 2010 the new company and I felt it was right to part ways i continued to see her during all of this and felt nothing but guilty because she was the reason i left my job (they never bring anyone back after the leave) i would see her and feel resentment and regret but i saw her anyway a few times i tried to end it and she just kept texting or emailing me things and i would go back she wanted me to find a job so i could leave my wife and be with her, for some reason i kept seeing her about 3 weeks ago we got into a argument and i told her i hated her and that falling in love with her caused me nothing but problems and that ended it pretty quick.. so here i am thinking about her i texted her a few times and she just ignored me how after losing as much as i did still have thoughts about her and still want to be with her i know i did wrong to my wife family and everyone i jeapordized alot and am still looking for a job yet my heart still aches for this women that drove me to this?
seren Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Sniper, why are so you angry at this woman? No one forced you to have an A, I can understand that you are angry (?) at the job and hopefully you are angry at yourself for having an A and the damage caused to your family and wife, and the OW too. But I don't get blaming someone else for decisions you made, nor for feeling so bereft at the loss of your job and not the people who you have been involved with. Not bashing you here, just think your anger and negativity are misplaced, possibly you need to understand why you feel like this. To be honest, if I were the OW, I would be pretty peed off that you blamed me for the change. Perhaps it's time to look introspectively, to understand just what it is you are cross about, what you want to happen and go from there. Are you still with your wife and does she know about the A?
Woman In Blue Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Jeez, what's with the run-on sentences? That wall of text was like one long sentence - periods are your FRIEND. You know, you're lucky this woman gave you the time of day as long as she did. What makes you think some married guy with a wife and kids at home is a desirable package to anyone? It's NOT. When you did what just about every married man does - screw around, claim to be in love and then not DO anything about it but continue having the best of both worlds - your OW was smart and cut you loose. I actually admire her for doing so. Otherwise, she'd be one of the veterans here on LoveShack who are still hoping he'll leave 4, 5, or 10 years later. Smart girl. Quite honestly, you should feel like sh*t and you should feel angry. You gambled with your family's financial security and threw away a good job you liked, all for something you shouldn't have been doing in the first place. The only thing is, you're blaming a woman who was smart enough to quit wasting her time on you and get on with her life. In actuality, the person you should be angry with is yourself. I'm sure your wife would just be thrilled to know that the reason her family is barely scraping by financially isn't because of the downward economy but because her husband acted like a horse's ass.
robf1971 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 When you did what just about every married man does - screw around, claim to be in love and then not DO anything about it but continue having the best of both worlds - . Hmm whilst I agree with most of your sentiments, take a look around LS and how many loyal husbands get cheated on by their cake eating wives, I would say the proportion is the same as the other way around. To say EVERY married man does this is a total damn insult. However the OP is a complete d*ck, I'll give you that.
rowell2024 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 When you did what just about every married man does - screw around, claim to be in love and then not DO anything about it but continue having the best of both worlds This generalized statement is bull****. I've been cheated on in two marriages by two different wives while I have remained faithful. And in the last 23 years, just about every marriage that I've seen that was broken was because the wife started sleeping around, either because she felt her needs weren't being met, meet someone at work, or meet another guy during their GIRLS NIGHT OUT. From what I've seen, married women screw around just as much as men, if not more. If a married man is screwing around, odds are a married woman is the one screwing around with him.
Carrot2000 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I think Woman in Blue is talking about every married man who cheats, not every married man.
Author sniperv1 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 belive me I wake up everyday blaming myself , there were 2 occasians I left to be with her and she decided she didn't want to be a home wrecker. why is it the the women who get involved with married men are the victims?? I know I was wrong and continute to pay the price and I am not making excuses, but don't judge me lady, I admit I made mistakes Jeez, what's with the run-on sentences? That wall of text was like one long sentence - periods are your FRIEND. You know, you're lucky this woman gave you the time of day as long as she did. What makes you think some married guy with a wife and kids at home is a desirable package to anyone? It's NOT. When you did what just about every married man does - screw around, claim to be in love and then not DO anything about it but continue having the best of both worlds - your OW was smart and cut you loose. I actually admire her for doing so. Otherwise, she'd be one of the veterans here on LoveShack who are still hoping he'll leave 4, 5, or 10 years later. Smart girl. Quite honestly, you should feel like sh*t and you should feel angry. You gambled with your family's financial security and threw away a good job you liked, all for something you shouldn't have been doing in the first place. The only thing is, you're blaming a woman who was smart enough to quit wasting her time on you and get on with her life. In actuality, the person you should be angry with is yourself. I'm sure your wife would just be thrilled to know that the reason her family is barely scraping by financially isn't because of the downward economy but because her husband acted like a horse's ass.
Albertan Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Hmm whilst I agree with most of your sentiments, take a look around LS and how many loyal husbands get cheated on by their cake eating wives, I would say the proportion is the same as the other way around. To say EVERY married man does this is a total damn insult. However the OP is a complete d*ck, I'll give you that. Seconded. On both counts. To say "every man" is a grossly insulting generalization and perpetuates the myth that all men are cheating scum, which a quick look around LS, iVillage or many other forums shows that this is not true. OP - grow up and be a man for the love of God.
YellowShark Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 1) Never EVER fish off the company pier. And now you know why sniperv1, it caused you to loose your good job, has affected you financially, and now you are screwed. 2) Never ever cheat. Unless you like dropping an atom bomb on yourself and your family. Breaking these two simple easy-to-follow common-sense rules have turned your life into a living hell. Haven't they? Something the readers of this thread should process before they make the same mistakes.
Author sniperv1 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 it's funny how you are all quick to judge and assume I'm in finacial peril or am living in hell I've invested my money wisley and am living comfortable. I don't regret quiting my job I regret getting involved with another women while married unlike most of you perfect people, I have made a mistake and was looking for a outlet to vent. so for all you people who judged me and have called me names go **** yourself. I have maned upped I have told my wife. all I was looking for was a outlet.
YellowShark Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 it's funny how you are all quick to judge and assume I'm in finacial peril or am living in hell I've invested my money wisley and am living comfortable. Well you named the thread "Cheated and lost alot." And you posted: ...i did fall inlove with this women and i was devestated when she ended it, i couldnt focus on my job anymore...i knew i made a mistake the company i left for was very slimy and did illegal things that i did not want to be a part of... about a month into the new job she emailed me to tell me she missed me and wanted to see me to which i did and all it did was make me feel worse for leaving my job in august 2010 the new company... i jeapordized alot and am still looking for a job yet my heart still aches for this women that drove me to this? Sounds like hell to me. You had an affair. You got really hurt. You were so hurt couldn't focus on your old job. You ended up leaving that job for another job that ended up to be slimy and was engaged in illegal dealings. Then you regretted leaving your old job. Now you are unemployed and full of heartache... So you don't have the girl or the job anymore. Which is the positive part sniperv1?
Author sniperv1 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 there's no positives. just a valuable life lesson
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