yuei Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years, lived (still living) with her for 3 and 1/2. We've had our ups and downs including emotional distancing, less intimacy, her financial problems and I am always taking care of her. For the past 2 months I have been slowly losing that spark with her and thought about breaking it off. It all started last year when another women began showing interest in me, I was pretty plastered because home life wasn't treating me to well in the bedroom. I was loyal though and never did anything beyond flirting casually. I got past it and we had a LDR for about 3 months (I was out of the country) and it was nice when I came back then fast forward 6 months, the past 2 months another woman really started hitting on me hard and fast and I was enjoying it. I was still loyal but it seemed to trigger all the negative things about my current GF to take charge of my thought process. So i broke it off about 4 days ago. We still are both staying in the same apartment but I am just staying at work for about 14 hours a day/coming home sleeping on the couch and leaving until we work something out. Of course, this is my first serious break up with someone I actually cared about . I keep telling myself i thought about this break up for a month or more and I can not make the "go back decision" so soon. It is pretty hard to not tell her "ok lets try again" when she sits here crying. I wish I could have a time machine to see if its the right decision. I am just having so many second thoughts considering If i became duped into getting my .... wet with this other girl or was it just a symptom of a failed relationship or Should I try it with my now exgf again? Any similar stories/Advice would be appreciated Thanks
D78 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 IMHO, if you were happy with your relationship, you wouldn't have been interested in this new girl who has been flirting with you. It's a bit late to reconsider - you've already broken up with your ex. I cried when my boyfriend broke up with me, but that didn't mean I wanted to be with him or try again. The chances are, you're going to have to live with this decision because you've already carried it out. And, are you thinking of trying again just because you see the pain she's in? That's not a good reason. It might make you feel guilty seeing her cry. Did you ever talk to her about the way you were feeling? If you clearly communicated to her your feelings, then you don't have much to be guilty about. If you never mentioned them, well... that's typical of folks who have checked out of the relationship. Why are you still living together?
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