quietGuy13 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 It makes me sad cause all these hot girls everywhere , they don't even look at me.. they don't even seem like interested. no eye contact even. And then also seein these guys with hot girlfriends.. meanwhile i have nothing. and i just don't see how I can have a girlfriend ever. it's saaaaad. I wanna cry . I just have to accept my destiny of never having a girlfriend? The only ones getting girls are the cocky loud mouths or brainy guys that read alot and can speak fluently. It's just sad. I feel like i'm worthless and i'm never gonna have a gf. I don't know but.....i thought going downtown to walk would be a good experience for me but i just get really sad always.
Ay Diesel T Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 (edited) Cheer up bro, there's somebody for everybody. Literally, even male animals, bugs, etc get laid at least once in their life. It's the natural order of things. Why get yourself down? Half of those hot women are probably huge whores. The other half probably have a disease or something. Just because they're hot doesn't mean that they're great people. You remind me of myself, 3 years ago. And I remember my manager, a big burly Bahamian woman. She would always scream at me, reminiscent of Samuel L. Jackson "ANDRE! WHAT I TELL YOU BOUT BEATIN YASELF UP OVER PEOPLE EH? YOU DON'T KNOW THEIR SITUATION! STOP YA CRYIN BOY" Lmao...as tough as her love was, she was pretty spot on. You don't know their situation. Those women could be walking by wondering why that quiet guy didn't even TRY to approach her...and all she gets are the cocky loud mouthed douchebags... You never know bro, not until you try. Do you workout? Try hitting the gym, and not for these hot birds all over downtown. For you. I can tell you have a low self esteem. The gym will change that so fast. About 2 years ago, my ex broke up with me. I took one look in the mirror, tears in my eyes and all, and I saw a sad, heart broken, out of shape guy. I don't know where and how, but somehow I took this negative energy, and used it as fuel to better myself. I started working out regularly, reading books, etc. No sooner than 8 months in, I was transformed. Not just physically, but emotionally as well. When you're healthier, you feel better. You just do. It's like, your mind, body and soul have been renewed, and refreshed. And then you get this aura about you, and people just love being around you, cause you're loving life. It just feels so natural, to be in shape. It's as if, it's the way our creators intended us to be. But I couldn't see that when I was depressed, and out of shape. I'm not blowing smoke up your ass here, get out there and start exercising man! Your whole life will change. The only thing it requires is patience, and determination. Re-read your OP in this thread - is this how you want to feel for the next week? Month? Year? Decade? If your answer is no, and I'm sure it will be, give my advice a try. I guarantee you if you follow through, within months you'll witness a new you being born. Edited February 13, 2011 by Ay Diesel T typos everywhere, lol.
Yamaha Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Showing interest can get you interest in return. People do not turn down a friendly smile and greeting. Try it and see if you don't feel better about yourself.
milkmaterial Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 (edited) dude .. first of all i'd like to say, its way harder for girls to find a nice guy who wouldnt jerk them around than a guy to find a nice girl. also, the more u look, the more u wont find it. i dont know, murphy's law i guess? also dont let every "rejection" bring you down, you gotta believe in urself that u are worth it. dont show that youre shy or afraid, or hurt (if u get rejected). just take it calmly. lastly i dont know if u take these tips with a grain of salt but it probably wont hurt http://www.wikihow.com/Look-Attractive-%28Guys%29 http://menshealth.about.com/cs/lifestyle/ht/grooming.htm there are some e-books online u can probably read. by the way i have a male guy friend who is like 29, turning 30 this year, and a virgin. so if ur still young i wouldnt worry about it. i also would advise u to not prioritize a girl over her looks, usually girls who are good looking/hot have 5 guys lining up for them..at this point if u never had a gf/relationship experience, u would want ur first relationship to give u a good learning experience for the future. you should go for a girl who likes u, shows interest in you and respects you. Edited February 13, 2011 by milkmaterial
runner Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 some simple advice. i'm not kidding; i'm not patronising; and i'm not making light of the fact that there could be some serious emotional and psychological issues behind this. join a martial art or some type of combat sport, and forget about girls.
spackle Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I understand what you mean - it's kinda like when you've broken up all you see EVERYWHERE are couples, couples laughing, couples holding hands etc. But you know what we really don't know their situation. I'm currenlty house-sharing and one of those guys has two women on the go...one here, one back home. So while those women think they're in a loving, exclusive relationship..the reality is very different. Look on the bright side consider that most relationships don't last and divorce rates are high they may look happy today, they may be posting on LS tomorrow.
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