young&unlucky Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 (I'm not sure if I'm on the right thread but anyway) Okay, so my boyfriend and I broke up after a good relationship so I thought. I've known him for two years (we met at a church function) and all my friends liked him at one point but we weren't ever romantically inclined because I never liked him. Well, I went on a trip to China this past summer and when I came back, I texted him to let his parents know that I had made it home safely and he told them but then he began flirting with me and before you knew it, we were going out. We came very close to having sex and three days later he text me and told me that he had something that he needed to get off his chest before he took my virginity and he told me that he cheated on me three times and I was really upset. So basically, we broke up and I was all upset but he seemed like he didn't really care so that made me even more upset. So, the next day, (I have to seem him every Friday at church) he tried to talk to him but I was being very rude even though the night before I told him that I wanted to talk so we could have some type of closure. I felt bad for being rude and asked him to stay back once church ended and he began being rude. So, finally I left and we didn't talk for the rest of the day or Saturday. On Sunday, he texted me about the SuperBowl because we would always argue over football and he told me if my Steelers didn't win that he was coming after me (he was joking around). I was very vague with my replies to his texts and finally I told him that I was going to a party but I would text him when I got back which made him kind of upset. So I went to the party and texted him when I got home like I said and we talked until 2am. During the conversation, I was being rather curt again but he kept trying to talk to me and then he finally asked what my problem was and I asked him how he would react if he was in my shoes and he said I was right. We kept texting and we got on the subject of trying again and we both talked about trying again when we were older (yes, I'm young. please don't criticize me because of it) and he said he wanted to most definitely try again when we were older but he wanted to experience more things right now. I know I have to move on and everything but how should I take that? Is he just saying that to make me feel better or do you think he really wants to try again once he wants to settle down? I know I'm young and there's other guys and yada yada yada and I know I'm going to move on but that had me thinking. So, what do you guys think?
thegreatmistake Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 If he wants to try new things, experience new things, or anything of the sort then you should move, don't look back, and don't worry about what he means or what he's implying. What that says is that he doesn't think you're the best he can get but once he finds out if he can't do better he'll give you another shot. As a guy myself, I hate when guys treat girls that way because it makes all of us look bad, however it is a fact of life that many guys (and girls) suffer from GIGS (grass is greener). Also, just because he thinks he can do better doesn't mean you should in any way take that to mean anything against yourself. I've lost people to GIGS and I've seen it happen to friends, and the selfish people that think they'll be happier sleeping around, dating a lot, whatever, they're rarely happy in the long run. Some are, but it isn't a lifestyle choice that fits most.
Author young&unlucky Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 I apologize for the delay but thank you for the advice. I've moved on and started seeing other guys, however, my ex decided that he was gonna pop back into my life. The Sunday he text me(this past Sunday), we spoke from 9 that night until 3 that Monday morning but then I fell asleep. We've been talking almost non-stop ever since. He told me that he still has feelings for me and that he's so sorry and that he knows that he has a long was to get my trust back yada yada yada. Basically, he was kissing my ass and let him do it but then I think I messes up because I started making things a little to easy for him. Now, I don't plan on committing to him because he really hurt me, however, we do have this little love affair going on but at the same time. I'm still seeing other guys so it's not like preventing me from moving on. We both told each other if we got serious about anyone else, we would tell each other. I like this little thing we have going on because I actually feel more comfortable being, I guess, friends with benefits than being fully committed to him. I'm not sleeping with him or anyone else, I'm actually still a virgin so is this bad in anyway? I don't know, I don't wanna seem easy or anything and I know it seems like I'm just using him as a fall back plan and I probably am but, I don't know. I'm confused. Help, please?
Author young&unlucky Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 Basically, he was kissing my ass and let him do it but then I think I messes up because I started making things a little to easy for him. I meant to say basically, he was kissing my ass and I let him do it but then I think I messed things up because I started making thugs a little to easy for him Stupid iPod, lol.
Author young&unlucky Posted February 24, 2011 Author Posted February 24, 2011 Omg things not thugs things Okay, I think you all get the point, lol
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