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MrsDamaged

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If you read my posts you know that H called off our marriage on the 30th of Dec.

 

One of the things he seems to not be able to live with is that 14 years ago we broke up and I ended having a relationship and got pregnant right away I felt like I betrayed my Husband. I broke up with the guy 3 days after I found out I was pregnant. He didn't want kids anyways. My H has raised my son from that relationship as his own.

 

We had an agreement that when the time came we would tell our son together. Well that didn't happen he got drunk one night and and thought is would be a great time to tell my son !

 

okay so now he sits here and says" I love him with everything" but I hate that you brought him into this world the way you did. That you didn't use protection to stop him coming into the world the way you did.

 

I don't know but this pisses me off to no end. How can you say you love him and then say you hate how he came into the world. Should it even matter how he became? You shouldn't be tossing that in my face if you love him like you say you do !

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I don't think you are being dumb, but I do think the two things are very different. Your H is saying that he loves your son, but that he is the product of an A, he hates the A, hates that his son isn't 'his', that he loves the 'product' of an A. I cannot imagine having proof of my H's A in front of me everyday, but I can understand loving your son as a person as his son.

 

My H is the Dad to our son, our son is my XH's who has nothing to do with him, but he looks so very much like his father. He has a look when he is being difficult, reminds me so much of his father, my H has noticed this - he doesn't hate our son, but can see my XH at that point. Doesn't stop him loving our son.

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Technically my son is not from an affair. We were broke up for 5 months when I was in a relationship when I became pregnant with my son.

 

I don't I just see it different , I don't think that he should be able to say one thing and then on the other say he hates it !

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