Author tiger20 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Tiger20, I have some questions for you. Why do you think that the ideal relationship for you would be dating 2 X per week for the rest of your life? Would such a relationship include sex? What would you expect to get out of a relationship like that? What do you think a woman would get out of it? Would your level of intimacy and closeness increase as you continued to date 2 X per week for the next 50 or 60 years? Or would those things remain on the same level throughout? Have you ever had a relationship with a woman? Have you ever had sex with a woman? Why is it that you seem to be fixated on giving relationship advice here on LS when you don't seem to have had any experiences to base it upon? Thanks in advance for answering my questions. You are assuming I don't have experiences to base this advice on. This advice is based on past experiences & lessons I've learned. The dating rules I've set are not set in stone. I may have to add more rules as time goes on & I learn new things about relationships & dating. There's always more stuff to learn & therefore more rules to add. All the rules I've made weren't just made overnight. I made them one by one gradually over the course of the last 10 years. 10 years from now I may have twice as many rules on the list as I have now. Who knows? I never know what I'm going to learn next. Yes I have had sex with 4 different women but that was a long time ago. I'm certainly no virgin but I made a decision back in the latter part of 2002 to stop having sex completely. So for the last 8 years I've been fulfilling my sexual needs through masturbation & occasional lesbian porn. So will there be sex taking place in my future relationships? absolutely NOT. So in one way women who have conservative views about sex would be compatible with me but only to a certain extent because even they eventually want to have sex- like after they are married. So even conservative women would not go along with no sex for the rest of their lives. When you say level of intimacy increasing over the next 60 years do you mean sexual intimacy or what? If it's sexual intimacy then the answer is no. What would a woman get out of a relationship seeing me just twice a week until the end of time? She would have someone to take her out once a week & buy her gifts on special occasions & cuddle with her giving her non-sexual affection, be supportive to her by going to the store & buying her medicine when she's sick, visiting her at the hospital. Of course if she is sick or in the hospital I will bend the rules & see her 7 nights a week because she has a legitimate need for me to be there & help her out. I've been in 12 different relationships in my entire life.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 Thank you for honestly answering my questions. Of course you are completely right to seek the kind of relationship that you want to have, but I question your position as an "expert" giving relationship advice and creating "rules" for other people. There are very few people who are looking for the kind of relationship that you would like to have. When I said "intimacy," I was talking more about emotional intimacy. Relationships are not static; they are constantly in a state of change and flux. When a relationship reaches a stagnant place, usually it will come to an end - friendships included. For your sake, I do hope you find a woman who would want what you want out of a relationship, but frankly I can't imagine why any would. She could easily get what you are offering her from a friend, relative - maybe even a pet. So can you, for that matter. You can create and follow all the rules you like while you are making forays into dating. Once you are in a relationship, however, you no longer get to make all the rules. You are responsible for your own boundaries, of course, but there are two people involved. If there are going to be "rules" followed in the relationship, putting them in place needs to be a joint effort.
GivenUp0083 Posted February 15, 2011 Posted February 15, 2011 You are assuming I don't have experiences to base this advice on. This advice is based on past experiences & lessons I've learned. The dating rules I've set are not set in stone. I may have to add more rules as time goes on & I learn new things about relationships & dating. There's always more stuff to learn & therefore more rules to add. This isn't your advice, you stole this exerpt from a book, you are a criminal who is just plain stupid because you're breaking copywright infringement laws just to boost your ego, you're not even making a profit on it. Personally if I were going to break the law after puting thought into it, I'd make sure I'd be making a buck on it. All the rules I've made weren't just made overnight. I made them one by one gradually over the course of the last 10 years. 10 years from now I may have twice as many rules on the list as I have now. Who knows? I never know what I'm going to learn next. I read the book you steal from, and it helped me in some aspects of learning how to gauge interest level, not care as much about outcomes of dates, and learn to let go of women that will only bring me down. But rules will only limit you. There's no perfect formula to finding the right girl. It's as tough as going on several dates with many women and trying to perfectly follow your stupid rules, and its as easy as just showing up to one date and letting the chemistry take over. Yes I have had sex with 4 different women but that was a long time ago. I'm certainly no virgin but I made a decision back in the latter part of 2002 to stop having sex completely. So for the last 8 years I've been fulfilling my sexual needs through masturbation & occasional lesbian porn. So will there be sex taking place in my future relationships? absolutely NOT. So in one way women who have conservative views about sex would be compatible with me but only to a certain extent because even they eventually want to have sex- like after they are married. So even conservative women would not go along with no sex for the rest of their lives. When you say level of intimacy increasing over the next 60 years do you mean sexual intimacy or what? If it's sexual intimacy then the answer is no. You're insane. To each his own, but no sex the rest of your life? Not even if you settle down and find a nice woman who loves you and wants to experience deep sexual intimacy with you? Join a priesthood at least so people don't KNOW you're crazy....they'll just think you're religious. What would a woman get out of a relationship seeing me just twice a week until the end of time? She would have someone to take her out once a week & buy her gifts on special occasions & cuddle with her giving her non-sexual affection, be supportive to her by going to the store & buying her medicine when she's sick, visiting her at the hospital. Of course if she is sick or in the hospital I will bend the rules & see her 7 nights a week because she has a legitimate need for me to be there & help her out. I've been in 12 different relationships in my entire life. However you want to justify your bruised ego for suffering rejection, emotional abuse, or whatever it is you're trying to overcompensate for then more power to you if this book helps you feel better about yourself, however it's going to be an illusion and you're not really going to be building relationships in their true form since you are desensitizing yourself from feeling anything and just natually playing out would normally happen. You're only limiting yourself, you're not "getting back" at anyone for your previous negative experiences because you're only hurting your own future relationships. Good luck with your life.
Author tiger20 Posted February 15, 2011 Author Posted February 15, 2011 Hey whatever keeps me out of divorce court & whatever keeps me from getting a woman pregnant is all that really matters in the end. Too many people act like being alone is the worst thing that can happen. Not if you have a lot of money in the bank. Even Doc Love said you may have to risk being alone forever to avoid the wrong women. I am not religious. I hate religion & I would not join the priesthood just because we have the same goals not to have sex. I don't agree with their reasons for doing so. My idea of hurting my own future relationships is ending up in divorce court. The dating system will keep me out of there.
mo mo Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Progress report? Hello?? You should be up to date #4 already
SmileFace Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 yeah some doofus sent it to me -- ok time to go make some coffee :-( work
mo mo Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 yeah some doofus sent it to me -- ok time to go make some coffee :-( work Your job is to make coffee huh? Wow...
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 16, 2011 Posted February 16, 2011 Hey whatever keeps me out of divorce court & whatever keeps me from getting a woman pregnant is all that really matters in the end. Too many people act like being alone is the worst thing that can happen. Not if you have a lot of money in the bank. Even Doc Love said you may have to risk being alone forever to avoid the wrong women. I am not religious. I hate religion & I would not join the priesthood just because we have the same goals not to have sex. I don't agree with their reasons for doing so. My idea of hurting my own future relationships is ending up in divorce court. The dating system will keep me out of there. Have you seen the movie, "Lars and the Real Girl"?
oaks Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 It's been a month and a bit... How did those 20 dates go?
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