cloudstoday Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 My boyfriend and I have been broken up for about two weeks, though the first week was very up in the air, he said he was pretty sure about how he felt and couldn't talk, so I wasn't sure if he was serious about breaking up. Finally after a week of nothing, I decided if that he refused to talk to me, to tell me whether he still wanted to try or not, I needed it to be over for my own mental health. so that I wouldn't just be waiting for him to make a decision for us both. So I sent an email saying how much I cared about him and was going to miss him, but that I needed it to be over so I could start grieving and getting over it, that we both knew we couldn't give each other what the other needed and that it would be best if we went NC. He wrote an email back saying he pretty much agreed and how sorry he was that this all happened. I cried really hard when I got it. It was over and now we both knew it. But I felt slightly more like I could handle everything now that I wasn't in limbo. So I was doing somewhat okay. But then HE DRUNK TEXTED ME last night!!!! He said he knew he shouldn't but he was feeling just so ****ty he couldn't help it. I was shocked. I thought he's just be glad I let everything go so easliy. I shut him down pretty hard because I was angry that he would make me feel like, knowing I asked for NC. Now this morning all I can think about is that I might have hurt him more, and that he's hurting as much as me, so what are we doing?? I want to text him so very badly. Just to know he's okay. It made me so sad all over again. And I miss him even more today than yesterday. I want to be able to get over this, not get pulled back in! What do I do? Pretend it never happened? What have other people done when this happened?
smudge21 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Try to ignore drunk texts. When alcohol is involved everything changes in my opinion. Just think how you are after a few drinks. You can get more emotional, not think things through etc. It's no different for him. He may now be regretting it. Quite frankly, you can either reply back telling him to careful what he sends when he's drunk, or you can ignore it. Either way, if he doesn't bring it up when sober, then it's not real. Just the alcohol talking.
gator12 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Agreed, if he wants any shot at reconciliation you will know. Until then ignore anything he may send you, especially drunk texts lol. They aren't worth your time and will leave you feeling like you are right now, for no good reason. -Gator
Author cloudstoday Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Thanks guys, I'm hating this all so much. I"m going to try and just forget about the text, just keep going to class, going to work, going to the gym. But god is this ever freaking hard. I keep asking myself if he's feeling as crappy about this break up as I am, why did we even break up?????
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