lastresort Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 This was a crazy week. My wife has been out of the house for 2 weeks now. Still at her moms and i am in our house with the boys. I have been on this roller coaster all week, and it aint no E-Ticket ride. we had a big argument this week about how she left the family, i didn't mean to attack her but it just came out that way. I know she is not happy not being in the home with me and the kids. What finally hit me was when she said, I don't live with you any more and when you get start to get angry i don't have to stand around and listen to it anymore. I thought that over and it dawned on me that trying to argue with her was not a good way of going about our lives. By Tuesday i was able to talk to her and keep my head together. All of sudden by the end of the week she is texting and calling me again. Then tonight i had to take the boys to basketball practice at 6:15, she has the kids thursday-Sunday. I was working in my office, that is about 1/2 mile from her moms house where she is living. 5:45 the office phone rings and it is my wife calling. She asks me if i had eaten dinner yet, which i was planning on eating some leftovers after basketball, i said no. She said well i made some extra chicken so if your hungry come on over. I didn't want to pass up an opportunity of seeing the kids and sitting down and having a little family dinner so of course i hauled butt over there and enjoyed a great meal. After practice i dropped the boys back off at the house and she was freaking out over a couple of mosquitos in the house and ask me if i could take care of it, which of course i did. We talked for a few minutes outside the house before i had to leave. She was cold so i wrapped my arm around her shoulder and rubbed her. She didn't resist, but i said good night and got in the truck and went home. I actually feel good tonight and not missing any of them because I felt we had a good day. It is just so confusing to me that she is being so nice yet wont hug me back. I guess i should just keep going about my "normal" life and see what happens. Tomorrow we see each other for the kids B-ball game, then i have to work the rest of the weekend. It will be interesting to see how i handle it, i am shooting 3 engagement sessions and I have a bridal consultation.
robf1971 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 She asks me if i had eaten dinner yet, which i was planning on eating some leftovers after basketball, i said no. She said well i made some extra chicken so if your hungry come on over. I didn't want to pass up an opportunity of seeing the kids and sitting down and having a little family dinner so of course i hauled butt over there and enjoyed a great meal. . Drop her like a bad habit, you want her to miss you? give her a dose of what separation will really be like.
robf1971 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 and she was freaking out over a couple of mosquitos in the house and ask me if i could take care of i. Class A cake eating my friend, don't fall for it
Author lastresort Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Class A cake eating my friend, don't fall for it That is what one of my girlfriends told me that i talk to about this. she told me she is probably making sure i dont wonder too far from home. But saying no seemed way to hard at the time, and i was hungry...
Duckduckgoose Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Sounds like she is playing games... she might have someone on the side.
Author lastresort Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 She left you because of arguments? She left me because I wasn't a good husband and didn't do enough to support her at home.
Albertan Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 She left me because I wasn't a good husband and didn't do enough to support her at home. Where have I read that before....oh I know....just about every male post here has pretty much the same bottom line. Honestly, I'm getting so depressed reading the same story over and over again. I agree with the others though - don't buy into anything. Sounds like typical mind game stuff.
Author lastresort Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 So today she offered mento to take the boys after their basket game until I had to work. I had already made plans to get caught up on things in the office so I td her no. It felt food to say no. The problem is she asked right in front of one of the kids. After I left the game I called her and told her that wasn't cool to ask right in front of the kids when she wasn't sure if I could or not. I normally would take them anytime but I had a couple things to get done. I know she was just being nice since I only have them on school days.
robf1971 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Where have I read that before....oh I know....just about every male post here has pretty much the same bottom line. Honestly, I'm getting so depressed reading the same story over and over again. I agree with the others though - don't buy into anything. Sounds like typical mind game stuff. It's like a damn script.... Honestly it's like there's a Wayward life website or handbook or something.
robf1971 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Noo don't do this. I know you love your kids but this is letting her use you as a doormat. In other words a bit of free babysitting, while she can go and have her fun. Yoour time and her time with the kids should be just that. She wants separation, consequences baby...
Albertan Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Noo don't do this. I know you love your kids but this is letting her use you as a doormat. In other words a bit of free babysitting, while she can go and have her fun. Yoour time and her time with the kids should be just that. She wants separation, consequences baby... This man speaks the truth!
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