Username37 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 I don't know how I'm gonna handle this. I have to go to school on that day, and I see them ALL THE ****ING TIME, so seeing them all lovely dovely is gonna be killer... What should I do? And what are you guys gonna do about Valentines Day?
Leandro Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 I'm sorry about that man. She's with another guy now?? crazyyy. Just try not to focus on it. How are you and that one girl? I'll be taking 2 tests and lifting weights. Might even call a girl I know.
collegeguy_24 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 What you should do is complicated, but also simple. I think you need to ask someone out, just say your looking for a valentines date, a woman you can treat like a queen for a night. That might help. Take it from me man, I am in the same place as you. I still love my ex and I know she has a new man for V-day, and it hurts like hell. For me though, I work all Valentines day and night in my new job, but my weekend is pretty free and knowing how my mind works I'd spend it thinking about the ex and how I would have treated her on V-day. I get the impression you think like me in that respect. So do what I did. I am taking a new woman out with the promise of giving her a good V-day weekend. It will certainly keep thr ex fro my thoughts, and it could very well do the same for you. Emotionally you might not be ready for another commitment, but make this a casual thing, not for casual sex, but just a weekend to get to know someone new as either a potential mate, or at the very least, a new friend you can talk to and hang out with.
Author Username37 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 I'm sorry about that man. She's with another guy now?? crazyyy. Just try not to focus on it. How are you and that one girl? I'll be taking 2 tests and lifting weights. Might even call a girl I know. Yeah, since September. The dude is really weird and annoying We're okay I guess. Nothing going on, just friends How are ya? What you should do is complicated, but also simple. I think you need to ask someone out, just say your looking for a valentines date, a woman you can treat like a queen for a night. That might help. Take it from me man, I am in the same place as you. I still love my ex and I know she has a new man for V-day, and it hurts like hell. For me though, I work all Valentines day and night in my new job, but my weekend is pretty free and knowing how my mind works I'd spend it thinking about the ex and how I would have treated her on V-day. I get the impression you think like me in that respect. So do what I did. I am taking a new woman out with the promise of giving her a good V-day weekend. It will certainly keep thr ex fro my thoughts, and it could very well do the same for you. Emotionally you might not be ready for another commitment, but make this a casual thing, not for casual sex, but just a weekend to get to know someone new as either a potential mate, or at the very least, a new friend you can talk to and hang out with. Great idea. It seems like you're doing well college compared to your previous post I also get the feeling that she still thinks about me. Anybody feel that too? Anyone feel that this **** is just a rebound and they're doing this because we did NC?
spackle Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 possibly but if they cared that much why didn't they try to get in touch rather than go crawl in to someone elses bed? but people have different ways of coping, some just love attention or NEED company. Kinda feel sorry for those people who aren't comfortable being by themselves for a while.
Author Username37 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 possibly but if they cared that much why didn't they try to get in touch rather than go crawl in to someone elses bed? but people have different ways of coping, some just love attention or NEED company. Kinda feel sorry for those people who aren't comfortable being by themselves for a while. Me too. I was with my ex for a year and a half and we were both each others first. Broke up in May 2010 and she got into a relationship in September. But in between, I've been told she had 5 flings throughout the summer. Her lack of empathy is sickening
Leandro Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 I'm good, I guess. Ex still with BOY. NC for like ...5, almost 6 months I think. Since The end of August. Starting to not care though. It's her loss. Been working out and slowly...slowly losing weight. Also talking to girls again. Not talking talking, but breaking the ice with random girls. Better than nothing. Stay strong man. I dont know what I would do if I had to see them everyday.
Author Username37 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 6 months of NC. Not bad. I started mine in June and it's been continuing, and helping slowly. And it seems like you're making progress. I'm proud of ya I found this stupid **** poem that she wrote after I asked for a second chance on her blog. I don't remember if I posted this a while back. "Empathy, sympathy, symphony. You’re a phony. Chaucer, second chances, missed kisses. I miss you, maybe. Can you tell me what I’m thinking? Because I don’t know." Aint she a creative mind? XD
Stilicho Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 lol, it looks like were all in a similar conundrum here regarding monday. Whats terrible though, is i have to endure 2 classes with my ex on valentines day, who insists on trying to talk to me and sit next to me, ven though she is now with the kid she cheated on me with. shes a cold, cold girl. i was in a relationship with her over 2 yrs, and this is only 1 and a half months after break up, but i feel as if im gaining the upper hand in all of this now, finally. as for valentines, i plan to spend the morning at the gym, hopefully get the response that im looking for from a new girl ive been talking to, and continuing my false(but slowly becoming real) indifference to my ex's games. everybody just keep your heads up and do your best to ignore them. like one of the posters said, its hard to get through the weekend, especially when you think constantly of what each of would be doing together on valentines, but remind yourself that they no longer deserve the treatment you would have showered them with, it helps a little, at least for me.
Leandro Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 that's a crazy poem man. I'm doing good, but I still have my days. Not because I miss her, but because I feel like I failed as a BF. You know?
collegeguy_24 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Yeah man, I'm doing better. Its hard though, but I've come to realize that even my ex doesn't know what she wants, which she admitted to during our relationship and after. Her and I have been exchanging a few emails, then she brought up the fact that she knows I've been talking about her on here, she even found the thread because I posted her full name in there. I decided that I am done with wasteing my time hoping for her to come back. If she does, and if I'm available then I will accept her with open arms. But there is also a possibility I will be taken at that time to. Just today me and the new person announced we are in an official relationship, even though I feel nervous about it, for many reasons, it shows I have the power to move on with my life. I don't know if it will last, but right now I am just enjoying the moment.
Leandro Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I am just enjoying the moment. And that's all that matters.
Author Username37 Posted February 14, 2011 Author Posted February 14, 2011 Tomorrow is really going to suck
Leandro Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 I know it is man. I think I saw my ex today. You'll be fine. It's just one day.
collegeguy_24 Posted February 14, 2011 Posted February 14, 2011 We're here for you man. You were there for me during my time of need, I am here for you in yours.
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