tiger20 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 So once you as a guy are established in an exclusive dating relationship then some of the dating rules can be relaxed. Instead of waiting 7-10 days to call her for a date you will wait 3-4 days instead & ask her out for 1-2 days later instead of asking her out for 5-8 days later. Since she's your girlfriend now it's ok to initiate non-sexual affection such as cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc just as long as you are not initiating affection more than she is. No public display of affection either. It's not classy. When you notice that she's not touching you as much as she used to then that's the time for you to back off a little on initiating affection. Don't initiate for the next 2-3 dates. Anytime there is a slight tapering off in the intensity of affection coming from her then that means her interest level has dropped from 95%-85%. That's the time to take action by backing off a little & let her initiate touching more. After a few dates her interest level should shoot back up to 95%. You still have to be a challenge even when she's your girlfriend. That means you are not going to say I love you even when she says it to you. When she says I love you then you need to come back with funny responses such as "well what's your favorite food this week?" or "No you love flowers" or "I feel like the luckiest man on earth". These are some examples. You can see her twice a week. Keep the dates short though. No more than 5 hours. Make sure you are taking her out once a week. Don't make of a habit of just sitting around the house all day & making out. That will lower her interest level with time because it's just the same boring predictable stuff you all do. Let her initiate sex. As a matter of fact forget about any plans to have sex with her until you get at least 8-10 months of time in with her. The longer you wait to be sexually intimate with her the better. You don't necessarily have to wait until marriage but hey it couldn't hurt if you did. So if she starts initiating sex before you get 8-10 months of time in then just tell her it's too soon. You'll want to plan a one week vacation with her after you get 12-15 months of time in with her. The purpose of this vacation is to get a better idea & a sneak preview of what it would be like to live with her day in & day out if you two got married. Some love doctors recommend that two people live together as a trial period before marriage. I disagree. I don't think that's necessary. I think a 1 week vacation out of state is much more practical. I suggest renting a log cabin someplace in the mountains instead of a hotel for that 1 week. Ideally the purpose of the telephone is to ask for the date but if she wants to talk to you when you call her up to ask for a date then give her 15-20 minutes on the phone. You have to compromise on this one but just don't stay on the phone for over an hour. After 20 minutes just tell her that you would like to talk about the subject matter more over dinner tomorrow night & then get off the phone. Lastly study the Kerry Grant movies. Study James Bond movies. Study Arnold Schwarzenegger movies. What would Arnold Schwarzenegger say if his wife told him she loves him & misses him? Think on your feet. Also the later you meet her parents and the later she meets your parents the better. Don't meet the parents until she asks you to marry her. She should be asking you to marry her after getting 2 years of time in with her. Once that happens then arrange to meet the families. Make sure you buy her a gift after the first 2-3 months of being exclusive with her. After that wait another 5 months to buy her another gift.
Lilmisus Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Some of these "rules" or "guidelines" or whatever, I have to agree with. Others, I couldn't help but laugh and think that it was just a joke. Like, wait to meet her parents, and the longer, the better? No PDA? Don't tell her you love her? Wait 8-10 months to have sex? What would manly men do if their wife told them that they loved and missed them? I mean, come on. Please don't tell me guys actually follow these rules. If it feels right, then do it. I believe that as long as you have the urge to say "I love you" to your partner, then you should say it. Don't just say it; sing it, show it, write it, etc. If you feel more comfortable avoiding saying those three little words then saying them, then it's not time yet. If you don't feel comfortable meeting each others parents yet, then it's not time yet. Same with sex. And about the PDA, I love doing it, and I enjoy seeing couples comfortable enough to do it, honestly. Not full make out sessions of course. Just little kisses while waiting in line, holding hands, showing attraction to each other, etc. But it all depends on the couple, and there's no guideline that can speak true to every couple out there. So please guys/girls: follow your heart, and not all this crap.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Haha. You sound like a real blast to date. I wonder why you don't have a girlfriend.
Author tiger20 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Haha. You sound like a real blast to date. I wonder why you don't have a girlfriend. Because most women my age want to get married and/or have kids. I don't want any of those things so I'm having a hard time getting into a relationship that's going to last forever. Most women are not satisfied with dating a man exclusively for the rest of their lives. In their mind it has to lead to marriage or a breakup at some point. I'm not saying they're wrong for wanting marriage but I'm just making an observation as to why I'm not compatible with most women. If I found a woman who would be ok with just dating the rest of our lives then I would have a girlfriend. But part of my dating system is that men are not going to waste a woman's time. I believe in letting a woman know upfront about 20 minutes into the 1st date that I have no interest in getting married or having kids in my future.
Mme. Chaucer Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 So, do you really think you have an audience of young men who want to meet a woman and to keep dating her for the rest of their lives without marriage or children, like you do? You are the first person I've heard of who wants to keep dating someone for a lifetime. How are you marketing your "program"? Are you just kind of testing it out here on LS?
Author tiger20 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 So, do you really think you have an audience of young men who want to meet a woman and to keep dating her for the rest of their lives without marriage or children, like you do? You are the first person I've heard of who wants to keep dating someone for a lifetime. How are you marketing your "program"? Are you just kind of testing it out here on LS? I think most young men especially loveshack members want to get married. So my system can guide them after they get married. My system basically says to men if you want to marry at all & take that risk then at least be careful who you marry & realize it is a very serious step. My system will help cut down on the divorce rate in America if followed. But if a man decides he doesn't want to marry but rather date a woman exclusively for the rest of his life then so much for the better. As long as he's honest with himself & the women he meets for dates then there's nothing wrong with not wanting to get married. A man has more opportunities to be a challenge when he's not married. Marriage takes much harder work than dating. Loveshack is a nice place to get feedback. I don't plan to make money off of this.
zengirl Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 So, do you really think you have an audience of young men who want to meet a woman and to keep dating her for the rest of their lives without marriage or children, like you do? You are the first person I've heard of who wants to keep dating someone for a lifetime. How are you marketing your "program"? Are you just kind of testing it out here on LS? He also doesn't like sex.
Pyro Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 sounds like you would pay more attention to a calander than your SO. I'm going to make sure my STB marriage lasts a lifetime to prove all these ridiculous points wrong.
Banega100 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 you seem a bit mental mate. I'm not waiting 8-10 months for sex with a girl, come on now! I hit it after 2 months, and that was long enough i thought.
waynebrady Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 If I find a woman... I think I will keep the first 11 dates going for exactly 2 hours 36 minutes and 1 second. After this I'm gonna take it more easy and only have it for roughly 2 hours and 30 minutes. When I call I'll hang up after exactly 17 minutes for the first 5 months and 1 week. After that I'll let the phone calls take a little more time, roughly 17 minutes and 10 seconds but no more. And I will offcourse call her 6 days 22 hours and 1 second before any planned date and again 5 hours and 1 second before to confirm plans. If the woman is not initiating affection as much as me, I will pull back on my affection to her by exactly 22,9% anything more or less is obviously ludicrous. However this only goes for the first 4,1 months after that I will only pull back 20,01% on cuddling and 0,009% on kisses. I won't have sex with the woman until exactly 3 years 7 months 1 week 2 days 20 hours 21 minutes and 9,001 seconds. 8-10 months? Step up ya game son. Hardcore gentlemen wait atleast a few years. I will plan a 6,9 day vacation with her after exactly 402 days of being with her. What do you think?
East7 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Another copier of Doc. Love's System Waiting 8-10 months to have sex with a gal, omg...
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