unknown123 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Ok, before I begin let me tell you a little about myself. I am a guy turning 20 real soon. I am somewhat shy, but not as much as my earlier years. I've only had one girlfriend to date. When it comes to girls, I really don't know how to communicate or be friends with them in person and maybe its because of my shyness/nervousness. I want to change all that. I want to be able to make friends easily, meet people, talk to girls with confidence. I hate being trapped in my room all day just because I have nothing to do. It's not like I have something to go do and I am choosing to stay home, I just don't have anything. I have a few friends and we hang out or go to the movies every now and then. OK! heres the real deal: Theres this girl I happen to like in one of my college classes. Shes quiet, always sits in the back, is really cute, and nice. I happen to sit next to her every time in that class (about 5 times so far). We have small talk time to time. Last week I came to school a bit early (maybe 10 minutes before class started) and I saw her sitting on the bench infront of the class waiting for the class to start so I sat next to her. We talked - you know about school, jobs, etc. Then she asked me for my name and we exchanged names. The next class after that, when the class ended and she was walking out to her car I asked her if we could exchange emails so that I could send her a copy of my paper so she can help me and review it for me. I got her email and she said "send me a blank email whenever you could so I get your email too if I need help". A few hours after that I sent her the email and I included my phone number too. Todays the second day and I havent heard from her yet, email or txt. I was kind of hoping she would reply back saying "hey heres my # too" or something like that. Maybe she will do that later (our next class together is in 4 days) or maybe not. As of now I'm playing the waiting game. If I get an email reply from her with her # or a txt or something than I am obviously doing good. But if she doesn't reply at all to the email than I don't want to quit because of that. Remember what I told you about my life? Well I want to change my life and my first step is confidence is with girls and I guess people in general. I have never asked a girl for a # or an email before so me asking her for an email was a big step for me. But I want more steps with her lol. Don't take me wrong, I'm not trying to ask her out any time soon but I would like to be her friend first. If she doesnt reply to my email, I will still talk to her in class and try to converse with her more and more over time, hopefully to a point where we could at least last 10-20 minutes of talking in a class period lol. And then I would invite her for lunch or coffee (sounds college-ish) lol. I have never ever everrr done that so for me to even ask a girl out for something like that is a hugeee accomplishment for me. I won't be thinking about if she says yes or no to that because thats getting a few steps ahead of where I am now. Lol I know this was a long topic but I really wanted to point out the important stuff and would really appreciate your opinions on this whole thing. Maybe some advice as to what I should do. thanks!!
Author unknown123 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 bump! please someone reply i need answers lol. im stressin over this.
somedude81 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Don't take me wrong, I'm not trying to ask her out any time soon but I would like to be her friend first. No!!!! Do not try to become her friend! Do a search for friendzone here and online. Ask her out for lunch or coffee the next time you see her.
K.K. Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Well, I'm thinkin that she was just thinkin that it was simply an e-mail address from a classmate to help with work. Things like this I guess take a little time. Sounds ok so far though. I don't think it'd be a bad idea to ask her out but I'd wait a bit. Gauge her reactions in class to see if she's in any way into you. And hopefully it could be something related to class and not exactly a date so you wouldn't feel so stupid if it bombed. Go slow. But good for you for putting yourself out there and trying to be more confident!!
Author unknown123 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Well, I'm thinkin that she was just thinkin that it was simply an e-mail address from a classmate to help with work. Things like this I guess take a little time. Sounds ok so far though. I don't think it'd be a bad idea to ask her out but I'd wait a bit. Gauge her reactions in class to see if she's in any way into you. And hopefully it could be something related to class and not exactly a date so you wouldn't feel so stupid if it bombed. Go slow. But good for you for putting yourself out there and trying to be more confident!! ooh ok. ya maybe she thinks of it as a simple email. i will continue talking to her in class and see if she seems interested or not and maybe in 2-4 weeks il ask her for out for coffee on the campus
somedude81 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Two to four weeks? Have fun getting friendzoned
Author unknown123 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 Two to four weeks? Have fun getting friendzoned friendzoned? its called getting to know the person. plus if the girl likes you enough, u can go from being her friend to her boyfriend.
somedude81 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 friendzoned? its called getting to know the person. plus if the girl likes you enough, u can go from being her friend to her boyfriend. Ah to be young again. Good luck mate
Author unknown123 Posted February 13, 2011 Author Posted February 13, 2011 and plus if you actually read my topic, you would have known that even trying to become a friend with a girl is difficult for me. soo in this situation, if i do enter the "friendzone" with her than that would still be a huge success for me. im not trying to get into anyones pants or w.e i wont even date a girl unless ive known her for a few weeks because theirs no point in rushing it.
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