mustofbeen Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 6 months ago I got into a relationship with a woman, she was driving me everywhere, paying for everything, even though I would offer but she would decline. Life was good, we couldn't get enough of each other. She was awesome. The only thing that I didn't like is she was always hanging out with dudes, but she's kind of a tomboy and that's why I liked her. I got over it, even though it bothered me few times. I was always passive in the relationship, she was in command and everything was cool. Then all of a sudden she started ignoring me, and telling me that she was tired and didn't want to see me today, and tomorrow the same thing would happen. I am a night owl, I take evening classes at night and work weekends, she has a 9-5 job and goes out on the weekends, so I understood. Then she started telling me that she doesn't date people that smoke ( kind of late telling me), but I tried quitting, and my MD had to go, I was like fine. I made plans to go out on the weekend after my work, and she ended up making promises but she didn't end up going for some odd reasons. Whatever, I waited 3 weeks, and finally had enough, told her that instead of making plans to go out I'd rather go out, she didn't take it seriously so I posted no hard feeling, it's over on FB and ended up getting a huge Email the next day. That she couldn't believe I posted that yada yada, and that her friends didn't like me anyways, and it is what it is crap. So I replied that I tried I'll always have feeling for her, and I didn't care about her friends, but I wasn't having any fun and she didn't seem like having any fun either so thats why I did what I did. And that I'll always have feelings for her and that's it. I got a call in the next few hours from her and she was apologizing, and telling me that she needed to grow up, and that she loved me, and that the reason she was ignoring me is because she developed some serious feelings for me, and that she wanted a second chance, I was like ok. We went to the park in the next few days, it was awkward, cold but it was ok. We made plans for Saturday, and ended up going out, I was running the show, picked her up, went to the movies, gave her few kisses and then she was like I just want to watch a movie, I was like fine, I was getting little frisky anyways. Then she started bitching about my driving, and telling me that I was difficult, we argued, I took her home and asked her if she wanted me to stay, she was like up to you. So I stayed, laid down tried to kiss her and she totally rejected me, I got up and was like wtf? She told me that she was playing with me, so I told her that she knew what my reaction was going to be, and put my clothes back on, and she was like this isn't going to work, and I left. That was 3 months ago. I left my bike stands at her house and wanted to get them but just didn't feel like dealing with her, and one day she found through facebook that I bought another bike and she offered my bike stands back I was like cool I'll pick them up when I have time. She called me again and said that she was off the next day and that she could drop them off at my house, and I was like no, just leave them outside and I'll swing by and will get them. I didn't want to see her. SO that was the plan, her plans got canceled and she stayed at the house I was like ****, just leave them outside. I stopped by and saw my stand outside so I ran to the house grabbed them and was in the process of putting them in my car when she came out. We ended up talking, she gave me few complements about my hair and stuff, was very nice, small talk, wasn't bad at all. I asked if I could use a bathroom and she was like fine, then when I came out she offered a nice riding leather jacket to me, I was like ok. That was weird, then I told her that I am sure she needed some things done, and she was like no I am just going to go pick up a movie, and gave me that look, I think she wanted me to stay, but I was like nice talking to you, I have to go and I left. She texted me few mins later that it was nice seeing me and talking to me, I was like sure, she send me some other texts, and that was it, or so I thought. THen she invited me to her birthday party, and I ended up flirting with a waitress and getting her mad, so I apologized and she was like I am not mad:confused:. Since then it's been few months and she texts me every other week and posts on my facebook cause I didn't delete her. Not sure what she wants. And calling me a dork and stuff. Now we're in a bike club, so we get together once in a while, but we haven't gone to the same meet together, I've been dodging the ones she goes too. But there is one coming up that I am thinking about going and she said she'll be there and will bring a friend . I haven't replied cause I am not sure if I should go. So the question is should I go and why is she texting me and posting on my fb? Thank you
gator12 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Yes go, she shouldn't dictate your actions outside of a relationship. And just ask her. Lol that's the only way you're ever going to know what she is thinks. Don't confront her but just simply ask, she may end up opening up or may get defensive. Who knows. -Gator
2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 (edited) I got a call in the next few hours from her and she was apologizing, and telling me that she needed to grow up, and that she loved me, and that the reason she was ignoring me is because she developed some serious feelings for me Logic just does not have a look in does it lol? I really like this person so I am going to ignore them wtf? mustofbeen I had a similar tale to yours. I met a shy type girl who hadn't had many RLs, she seemed really over the moon to be going with me and seemed really close, wanting to be with me, paying for everything, always texting etc then bang - cold as you like, no explanation, she made stuff up but it was so much lies I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I tried to talk but it was like everything I said she got more and more annoyed and was just making up the most pathetic excuses to avoid me - now if that's not true love what is lol?. I basically said I do not need this and said we should take time out; basically I done the dump for her cause she couldn't do it; I know she couldn't make up her mind so I helped out! That was in December 2010, we spoke a few times since then but she seems to jump on me say if I went on MSN then start acting weird and a bit strange. I am now on NC for 3 weeks and she can bloody stew in her own juices for all I care. Remember watch what they do not what they say. 2011 Edited February 13, 2011 by 2011
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