issohard Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Obviously Valentines are coming on Monday and I'm just wondering what are you going to do if your MM/MW or xMM/xMW will contact u to wish u happy Valentines. Any thoughts...
Confused4Now Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Obviously Valentines are coming on Monday and I'm just wondering what are you going to do if your MM/MW or xMM/xMW will contact u to wish u happy Valentines. Any thoughts...For me I'd rather just ignore. Probably no response...and I'll tell you why. That was xMW and our anniversary. That marks 5 years. She still with H and not left yet.
East7 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 (edited) That's not very surprising that some xMM/xMW may use V-day as a pretext to break NC and test the waters. For those who are still in A-s, I think is kind of double-humiliation day when MP celebrates it with the BS while the AP have to spend it alone and miserable and hear the MP bullshyte "it is just formal" I have promised this, I cant cancel it... Thank God, I didn't had to experience that with xMW. Bless her Anyway to answer the question, yes, the best way is to ignore if NC. Edited February 12, 2011 by East7
BeachBetty Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Are you in NC? I have plans with my honey on V-day so I expect contact. I am wondering why you are asking.
Heather1 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Not expecting an email for v-day but.... An email takes no effort at all, it means nothing.
Summer Breeze Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 That's not very surprising that some xMM/xMW may use V-day as a pretext to break NC and test the waters. For those who are still in A-s, I think is kind of double-humiliation day when MP celebrates it with the BS while the AP have to spend it alone and miserable and hear the MP bullshyte "it is just formal" I have promised this, I cant cancel it... Thank God, I didn't had to experience that with xMW. Bless her Anyway to answer the question, yes, the best way is to ignore if NC. There wasn't a bit of humiliation in my V Days when I was with xMM. The first one we went away for a long weeked, the second we went dining and dancing (in his town so well out in the open) and the last one we had pizza and beer with some friends and spent the night on a park bench looking at the river talking. Every year now I still have flowers from him at my door when I get in from work. I still don't respond.
jj33 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 (edited) There was no humiliation for me either. We went out to dinner etc. He and his W didnt celebrate it at all. And why humiliation? East I think in retrospect you are finding the whole A to be humiliating. I went through a long phase like that. I couldnt wrap my head around the fact that things didnt end in happily ever after. It is not humiliating if you look at it differently. Not all great loves end in marriage. If you look at the time you shared when you were happy, then it was not humiliating. Isso, if he contacts you be flattered. Its nice to know that someone is thinking of you. It means no more no less. If he takes steps after that to try to be a part of your life, then you have something more to think about. If xMM sent me flowers I would thank him and that would be that. He has his ways of letting me know he still loves me. Its a bond between us. Like many past loves. Its something that is there but not acted upon. Its only threatening if you dont know where you stand on things. Otherwise take it for what it is. Edited February 12, 2011 by jj33
Shocking Pink Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Well I expect to hear from both MM as Valentines Day is also my birthday. MM1 asked me to go away for the weekend with him but he knows I can never do that bc I always spend my birthday with my family, so he wants to take me away Presidents day weekend instead. He will probably send flowers or something. MM2 is a different story he is an old friend he and I are struggling with an EA. He will probably come to my mom's house for a little while that day to wish me a happy birthday and spend some time. So obviously I am not NC with either of them.
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