jamrah Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Well this story began last summer. My g/f and I were having trouble, she told me all this and I just ignored it. She left, I was gutted and thats were the fun really started. I had my suspicions that she fancied this older guy we both had just met through mutual friends. So they hook up no strings attached. She's 25, he's 38. He's a pretty cool dude who won the lottery and obviously 'flicks her switches'. I left it quite well, just doing my thing, moved to the other side of the city, etc. We continued to have contact and I would always help her, money, support, friendship. Well its been 8 months and they are still at it. No strings attached. I am so ****ing jealous!! I can't move on. I've met other women but am so not over her. I have embarassed myself numerous times with her, pleading to give a second chance, she said maybe in the future but not right now. Basically I miss my baby, and there's nothing I can do about it, she is happy, free and ****ing. And I am stupid, lonely, not ****ing and sad. We went out for 6years. My life, although under control is a bit ****ty thinking about what I have lost. Old boy eddie must have thought he struck gold. Prick!! No contact was always broken by one of us, mostly me. Its easy to say let her go, but in practice a lot harder. Guess its a case of two things. You don't know what you've got till its gone, and, wanting what you can't have. Guess I'm just on here moaning, but its hard and its sucks. Feel free to comment. Plz do.
Chelly Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 go NC. and do it for as long as it takes for you to heal. it is all up to you, it is your call. it worked with me, just be determined.
Leandro Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Stick to NC. You need to heal. If she breaks it, oh well. The other guy is suppose to take care of her needs. Another reason but not the most important reason to go NC is how is she going to miss you when you're they're 24/7 for her???? She's having her cake and eating it too!! She told you she doesn't want anything with you, but maybe in the future. So go and stop wasting your time on her.
depplover_1980 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 It is as hard as you make it for yourself and the reason you struggle is because you are not setting yourself clear parameters. No you can do nothing about your feelings, but you can control your actions - set some boundaries, put yourself first and DO IT. No one else can get to that place for you.
Author jamrah Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Thank you guys for the advice. It helps a lot.
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