lexaton Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I have been noticing the same people who are always in relationships and those are usually just the average looking girls, ones that aren't really viewed at as drop dead gorgeous but just typical. I have other girl friends who are really beautiful inside and out (not just makeup beautiful) and they have to deal with guys over and over not being able to commit. Is there maybe an insecurity factor with men being able to date girls who they feel are out of their league?
alphamale Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Is there maybe an insecurity factor with men being able to date girls who they feel are out of their league? no its more that those chicks tend to be high maintenance and more demanding
Author lexaton Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 I'm talking about down to earth gorgeous girls. Not dolled up girls.
bayouboi Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I'm talking about down to earth gorgeous girls. Not dolled up girls. Not exactly sure of the distinction, but I agree with alphamale. The prettier girls are likely the highest maintenance because there's always someone waiting in line to give them whatever they want.
Author lexaton Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Higher maintenance in terms of affection, communication or materialistic things?
Hopeful30 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Higher maintenance in terms of affection, communication or materialistic things? Men think that just because a girl is beautiful then she's a demanding, cocky, snobby woman. It's true men are probably waiting in line, but that's not excuse to NOT date her, its pretty cowardice if they can't handle a confident, beautiful woman. Doesn't mean she's high maintenance, they're probably all saying that because they've never had a beautiful girlfriend before. It's their excuse for not being able to get one.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Men probably don't want to do much more then maybe have sex with a beautiful woman like that unless he is her equal in looks because he feels like she's gonna *poof* be gone as soon as what's next comes around the corner. The high maintenance may or may not apply. Chances are if she's that gorgeous and high maintenance she's attracting men that can afford to be with her. (think Pitt and Jolie) Average looking men get with average looking women (think most of the married couples you know) That is just what I have noticed.
zengirl Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Is it possible that: (a) These prettier girls have higher (perhaps unrealistic?) standards and worse taste? or (b) The prettier girls you know may be "good" people but have less social capital and skills, because they were always pretty and didn't need some of the skills in forming relationships that the average women developed? FWIW, I've never felt a guy was less likely to date me or commit to me because he found me beautiful.
Woggle Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Men tend to aim lower because they feel they don't have a chance with an attractive woman. They also feel that an attractive women is more likely to cheat because she has more options. None of this is true but the misconceptions exist.
musemaj11 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Yea its a fact that generally when a man sees a very beautiful woman in his eyes, he just assumes that she is a bitch n high maintenance. Most of the times its true, but I know not all because some gorgeous women take so good care of themselves simply because they have insecurity issues. Currently there is a gorgeus blond girl with blue eyes in my class. Wherever she went all the guys turned their heads, but noone ever talked to her. They all myself included already made up a negativve assumption about her. Recently however I was 'forced' to interact with her for schoolwork n I she was actually a very friendly n normal person. I felt really bad for prejudging her.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 And now you got a chance with her Muse You're 2 steps ahead of all them other guys... don't let them in on your secret!
Author lexaton Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Sad that these misconceptions do exist. So is it reasonable to say that men tend to moreso play it safe with girls in attempt to cover there asses instead of giving the really stunning girl the benefit of the doubt?
Emilia Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 sure. The same way as many women assume good looking guys are all players.
Seamless74 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 man where is all this rubbish coming from... I simply dont get it nor have i ever noticed. The looks of a girl have no bearing on whether or not a man would commit.. its personality and compatibility end of story.. An hot girl would not be at any disadvantage in regards to my commitment level as compared to an average looking girl all things being equal...
Author lexaton Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 I feel like what these guys are saying is that they feel like they would be more at risk to be given the boot or be cheated on because stereotypically they think the girl would have guys lined up around the corner.
waynebrady Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 It's about being realistic. I would only ask out women who are in my "league". Not that I'm ugly or anything I look pretty decent but I'm only 5'7 so ehmm yeah... Real attractive women are probably hard to keep anyway. I'm not the one to act like a servant and treat the woman like she's a queen... but theres plenty of men who will, so it would only be a matter of time before it ends.
Emilia Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I feel like what these guys are saying is that they feel like they would be more at risk to be given the boot or be cheated on because stereotypically they think the girl would have guys lined up around the corner. I'd say this is more about being scared of strong attraction to someone and of that person's power over you.
Author lexaton Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 cheers to u wayne brady for having that username. i love that guy. hahaha
waynebrady Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 cheers to u wayne brady for having that username. i love that guy. hahaha I know. But Wayne Brady is almost my real name, thats why I picked it. Wayne is my middle name.
mtber75 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Men tend to aim lower because they feel they don't have a chance with an attractive woman. They also feel that an attractive women is more likely to cheat because she has more options. None of this is true but the misconceptions exist. Yes, this is true that's why many men have insecurity issues!
waynebrady Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I'd say this is more about being scared of strong attraction to someone and of that person's power over you. Don't most women want to have the power in the relationship anyway?
Author lexaton Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Yes. Women do want power. Unless they are really the submissive type. But this doesn't have to do with having power or not. If men aren't willing to take the leap of faith to see if a relationship will work if they have personal insecurities then its a lose lose situation. Wouldn't it be worth diving head first for something you truly want vs. protecting a fragile ego? I feel like most men don't want to risk being burned because stereotype says that they should be fearful.
waynebrady Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Yes. Women do want power. Unless they are really the submissive type. But this doesn't have to do with having power or not. If men aren't willing to take the leap of faith to see if a relationship will work if they have personal insecurities then its a lose lose situation. Wouldn't it be worth diving head first for something you truly want vs. protecting a fragile ego? I feel like most men don't want to risk being burned because stereotype says that they should be fearful. Isn't it insecurity to want the power and the upper hand in a relationship? Most women say the man should love the woman more than vice versa... pretty insecure if you ask me.
Eeyore79 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 I've noticed the same phenomenon. I'd expect that a guy would feel lucky to have a girl who was attractive but also a relatively normal and nice person, and would want to commit in order to keep her, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Not wishing to blow my own trumpet, but I've been told I'm pretty, yet guys seem to want to string me along and just try to get me to have sex with them. Most don't even seem interested in a relationship, and those who do want a relationship of sorts still won't commit. It seems that the player/douchebag type guys are the only ones with the nerve to approach me, but even when I approach nice quiet type guys myself, they want to date but not commit. I don't feel like I'm demanding or snobby; I'm actually very quiet and shy, and I think I'm nice enough, so it puzzles me why nobody has snapped me up. I don't have unrealistic standards - I'm dating the guy already, I'm willing to be with him, he just never proposes and we end up splitting up. Other women seem to have guys committing all over the place - they're not any nicer than I am, we're exactly the same apart from I have a slightly more appealing face etc. So why do guys want them and not me? (you'd think it would be the other way around!) Is it really because they think I'll cheat, or because they feel insecure?
GoodOnPaper Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 I feel like what these guys are saying is that they feel like they would be more at risk to be given the boot or be cheated on because stereotypically they think the girl would have guys lined up around the corner. Of course. Speaking for myself, even factoring out the fact that I was always terrible at attracting women, I have always figured that I can't be the one in a million for a woman if I am one of a million . . .
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