listen_to_me_please Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 (edited) long story short, ex and i dated, it was great yada yada. ex started cheating the end 3 years later, i get friend request on fb. i ignored it for about 2 months then accepted. she sent me a message that said 'hello [insert_small_talk] i asked for her phone number, i called her a month later (today) we spoke for 20 minutes, nothing heavy conclusion: she's working 7 days a week, two jobs. sounds like she is single felt like she wants to start dating me again felt like she wants me to forget about the pass and accept her as being mature ----- my views: that women hurt me severely it makes no sense having her come visit me she sounds like she matured. i don't want to forgive her. i think i still love her i want her to tell me she's sorry on the other hand, i could careless Do I have issues? Edited February 11, 2011 by listen_to_me_please
broken-and-lost Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 if you want her back you can't take the past in with you otherwise it's back to square one, no harm telling her your still hurt she never told you she was sorry if that then helps you move on from there !!
Author listen_to_me_please Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 (edited) but the berayel, it goes against my culture to resume another relationship with her, even though i've accepted the fact she can have sex with whom she sees fit, but just the lies and heartache it caused...... thats too much drama in my personal life. i know her, as soon as we start getting comfortable, she's going to cheat she has two faces Edited February 11, 2011 by listen_to_me_please
selena_cat Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Curious who broke up with who? Did you stay on NC and three years later she contacted you? If youre what they call the dumpee.Good job for not rushing to speak with her,thats what we all here should do. I say take it real slow if you want her back,don't rush into anything.
Author listen_to_me_please Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 (edited) I think I was the dumpee. But technically I broke up with her once her best friend informed me she "moved on" and "ofcourse they are having sex" and with this information I just told her it was over. She begged and cried for about a week or two and kept calling me consantly until I finally gave in and started to talk to her and over time she just began to disrespect me in a manner in which I was not accustom too. It was later that I realized she didn't want us to end on bad terms, i was so hurt. I ofcourse told her to eat **** and die, so I don't know who was the dumpee. I feel as if she left me which in reality is what she was preparing to do. To answer your question: Yes I remained NC for the entire 3 years and so did she. Throughout the years she did things to let me know she was still thinking of me and so did I and when I saw that facebook contact, I ignored it then about month later I decided "hey why not speak to her" Its almost as if she left and went to explore life and now she's back in town and is saying "Hello sweet heart" Edited February 12, 2011 by listen_to_me_please
spackle Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 becareful...'it's almost like she had nothing better to do so she said 'Hi!' we can read in to things whatever we want to.
Author listen_to_me_please Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 aye, thats the answer i was looking for
gator12 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Yea it's a possibility, but if you love her you could give her another shot. I mean, people do change as hard as it is to believe. Maturity in relationships is a necessity and a lot of women don't hit it for a while. She may or may not tell you I'm sorry. Idk, I'd go with your gut, if you maybe date her again take it slow and see if she's really changed over the past few years. Idk just my thoughts, I'm an optimist I always believe in second chances. -Gator
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