Gotti25 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I posted here a while ago!! Broke contact with OM 6 months ago only hooked up twice!! Didn't keep contact at all!! OM called a few times in between those 6 months H picked up and threatening him so he stopped!! Until I texted the OM couple nights ago wasted out of my mind around 2 a m wanting to meet up!! I went over to his place and had sex came home around 6am!! The OM asked me to delete the text messages he sent which I did so my H wouldn't find out!! The OM is single and extremely good looking I don't know what to do!! I haven't talked to him since we met up couple days ago plus I left a few things at his place and now I am planning of contacting him to come and get my things!! My H does not know of this and the OM is playing smart he won't text or call me until I text him of means my H is not around!! I don't know I am stuck in this I can't stop thinking about the OM!! I don't know what he thinks of this and why is he getting involved with a MW back again after all the treats my H sent to him!!
Confused4Now Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I posted here a while ago!! Broke contact with OM 6 months ago only hooked up twice!! Didn't keep contact at all!! OM called a few times in between those 6 months H picked up and threatening him so he stopped!! Until I texted the OM couple nights ago wasted out of my mind around 2 a m wanting to meet up!! I went over to his place and had sex came home around 6am!! The OM asked me to delete the text messages he sent which I did so my H wouldn't find out!! The OM is single and extremely good looking I don't know what to do!! I haven't talked to him since we met up couple days ago plus I left a few things at his place and now I am planning of contacting him to come and get my things!! My H does not know of this and the OM is playing smart he won't text or call me until I text him of means my H is not around!! I don't know I am stuck in this I can't stop thinking about the OM!! I don't know what he thinks of this and why is he getting involved with a MW back again after all the treats my H sent to him!!Why he comes back is cause whatever you got it must be goooooood. Can I ask how old you are and OM? You sound pretty young. Well I can assure you are in the affair fog...all those chemicals are in full force. All I can say is what do you want? I think we all know where this is heading....and it doesn't sound like it's going to be pretty. Good luck and hugs!!!
Author Gotti25 Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 I'm 25 the OM is 25 and my H is 29 been together for 6 years married 1year!!
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 The question really should be not about the OM and your H's threats to him, but why are YOU back with the OM and pursuing him (again) behind your H's back? Why should the OM respect your marriage and your H when you don't. Make a decision. Either OM or your H. To continue to lie, cheat and betray your husband is going to blow up in your face when your H realizes you've been playing him for a fool .. Again. You are blowing any chance of fixing your marriage..You ready to lose everything for this OM?
YellowShark Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Here's a few ways to look at it differently. 1) If a good friend of yours told you the same story would you advise her to continue the affair or be faithful to her husband? 2) If your husband was doing the very same thing with another woman would you say "that's ok Honey... have fun!" 3) As whichwayisup put it, "You ready to lose everything for this OM?" I mean you really have to focus on that and decide if sex with the OM is worth your marriage and all the fallout from the families that will follow if this blows up in your face. Something to think about over the weekend.
Mimolicious Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I posted here a while ago!! Broke contact with OM 6 months ago only hooked up twice!! Didn't keep contact at all!! OM called a few times in between those 6 months H picked up and threatening him so he stopped!! Until I texted the OM couple nights ago wasted out of my mind around 2 a m wanting to meet up!! I went over to his place and had sex came home around 6am!! The OM asked me to delete the text messages he sent which I did so my H wouldn't find out!! The OM is single and extremely good looking I don't know what to do!! I haven't talked to him since we met up couple days ago plus I left a few things at his place and now I am planning of contacting him to come and get my things!! My H does not know of this and the OM is playing smart he won't text or call me until I text him of means my H is not around!! I don't know I am stuck in this I can't stop thinking about the OM!! I don't know what he thinks of this and why is he getting involved with a MW back again after all the treats my H sent to him!! Wait... you are wondering why HE is getting involved? Why are YOU getting involved? After all, you got wasted and couldn't control your impulse. Obviously your H's threats must be of laughing matter to the both of you. You two are making a pure clown out of your H. You're young, you'll learn and the hard way, I bet. Don't complaint when you find yourself with nothing and broken. Tell your H that all his emotions, anger and threats were a pure waste of energy and that you give a ratass about what he has to say. Wanted to share something that I saw on the news yesterday. I was sad, after recognizing the picture. A raged H walked into his W's work place and blew her head off with one single shot, then took his own life. Want to know why? I think you can figure it out. People play too much games with emotions not realizing that they may be pressing someone else's wrong buttons.
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Wanted to share something that I saw on the news yesterday. I was sad, after recognizing the picture. A raged H walked into his W's work place and blew her head off with one single shot, then took his own life. Want to know why? I think you can figure it out. People play too much games with emotions not realizing that they may be pressing someone else's wrong buttons. People are capable of anything when pushed past their emotional limit. That's why it's called crime of passion. Something to think about .......
TigerCub Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I posted here a while ago!! Broke contact with OM 6 months ago only hooked up twice!! Didn't keep contact at all!! OM called a few times in between those 6 months H picked up and threatening him so he stopped!! Until I texted the OM couple nights ago wasted out of my mind around 2 a m wanting to meet up!! I went over to his place and had sex came home around 6am!! The OM asked me to delete the text messages he sent which I did so my H wouldn't find out!! The OM is single and extremely good looking I don't know what to do!! I haven't talked to him since we met up couple days ago plus I left a few things at his place and now I am planning of contacting him to come and get my things!! My H does not know of this and the OM is playing smart he won't text or call me until I text him of means my H is not around!! I don't know I am stuck in this I can't stop thinking about the OM!! I don't know what he thinks of this and why is he getting involved with a MW back again after all the treats my H sent to him!! Hey Gotti, not sure if you ever answered this questions before or not - but why are you still married? Honestly, if you like this OM, and he's better and makes you happier, why not just get divorced and get with him - since him being "involved with a MW" seems to be a concern for you- why not just take the M out of the MW? You've been married 1 year, right? Do you have any kids? if not, then - the break should at least be easier. Why not just do that? Why are you holding someone down? I'm not throwing stones at people involved in As, but honestly, your H knows about your A, its cruel to keep demoralizing him and humiliating him when he's obviously given you a second chance.
Mimolicious Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 People are capable of anything when pushed past their emotional limit. That's why it's called crime of passion. Something to think about ....... I felt very sad. 2 small children are left behind without parents. Anyway, back to the OP. What is so hard about separating and doing you on YOUR time? Not on your M time.
bentnotbroken Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I posted here a while ago!! Broke contact with OM 6 months ago only hooked up twice!! Didn't keep contact at all!! OM called a few times in between those 6 months H picked up and threatening him so he stopped!! Until I texted the OM couple nights ago wasted out of my mind around 2 a m wanting to meet up!! I went over to his place and had sex came home around 6am!! The OM asked me to delete the text messages he sent which I did so my H wouldn't find out!! The OM is single and extremely good looking I don't know what to do!! I haven't talked to him since we met up couple days ago plus I left a few things at his place and now I am planning of contacting him to come and get my things!! My H does not know of this and the OM is playing smart he won't text or call me until I text him of means my H is not around!! I don't know I am stuck in this I can't stop thinking about the OM!! I don't know what he thinks of this and why is he getting involved with a MW back again after all the treats my H sent to him!! A better question might be, why are you emotionally abusing two men with the threat of physical danger also a possibility? What about you makes this okay? Would it be okay if someone did that with your emotional health? What would it take for you to either leave your husband or to become a faithful wife?
East7 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 (edited) Oh Gotti, blonde and hot, I remember you so well, you are the happily cheating wife You are the only MW I have ever heard of going out to see OM at the middle of the night, have sex and come back home at sunrise like nothing ever happened. You enjoy hot sex with OM and playing with the head of your H who is a total wuss to still keep you. Like Mimi said, if you play with the fire you'll get burn. Edited February 11, 2011 by East7
Author Gotti25 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Lol east your a funny man!! Well to all of you my H is no angel he preffers hanging with his lovely annoying friends then spending time with wifey!! So I suggested divorce he won't hear about it he said if I make mistakes he will forget but he won't let goo and I hate it cause I spend a lot of time home alone his always with the guys pisses me off I talked to him about it he won't do ****tt!! He said to me your fine just gooo get your nails done or whatever you'll get over it!! How's that supposed to get things better no wonder I'm having an affair hmmm??
Summer Breeze Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Lol east your a funny man!! Well to all of you my H is no angel he preffers hanging with his lovely annoying friends then spending time with wifey!! So I suggested divorce he won't hear about it he said if I make mistakes he will forget but he won't let goo and I hate it cause I spend a lot of time home alone his always with the guys pisses me off I talked to him about it he won't do ****tt!! He said to me your fine just gooo get your nails done or whatever you'll get over it!! How's that supposed to get things better no wonder I'm having an affair hmmm?? Darling if you walk out the door he really can't do much about it. You're a big girl now. Your last question should have been 'no wonder I'm getting a divorce hmmmm??'. You don't have a reason to be having an A you have a reason to be having a life. Get out of the M and get your life going.
East7 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 (edited) Until I texted the OM couple nights ago wasted out of my mind around 2 a m wanting to meet up!! I went over to his place and had sex came home around 6am!! ****/***** I don't know what he thinks of this and why is he getting involved with a MW back again after all the treats my H sent to him!! You really crack me up ! I didn't know a thread could be so entertaining You make to OM a booty call and then you wonder, how did he dare to get involved with a MW....lol He said to me your fine just gooo get your nails done or whatever you'll get over it!! How's that supposed to get things better no wonder I'm having an affair hmmm?? I heard your prayer too :http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=3126355&postcount=45 F**'K me I want sex LOLZ !! So.... I have a better suggestion than manicure, come and meet me in Paris ! I have sweared no more MW but with you I'll make an exception Madame Gotti Edited February 12, 2011 by East7
whichwayisup Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Lol east your a funny man!! Well to all of you my H is no angel he preffers hanging with his lovely annoying friends then spending time with wifey!! So I suggested divorce he won't hear about it he said if I make mistakes he will forget but he won't let goo and I hate it cause I spend a lot of time home alone his always with the guys pisses me off I talked to him about it he won't do ****tt!! He said to me your fine just gooo get your nails done or whatever you'll get over it!! How's that supposed to get things better no wonder I'm having an affair hmmm?? Wow, way to go, put all the blame on your H and wash your hands of your choices. Ever hear of standing up to him and tellng him how you feel, how fed up you are, how hurt you are, that you want a divorce? or even tell him I've met someone else" Anyway, it seems neither of you took your vows seriously and don't know how to be husband and wife. Why did you two even bother getting married?
Hazyhead Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Wow, way to go, put all the blame on your H and wash your hands of your choices. Ever hear of standing up to him and tellng him how you feel, how fed up you are, how hurt you are, that you want a divorce? or even tell him I've met someone else" Anyway, it seems neither of you took your vows seriously and don't know how to be husband and wife. Why did you two even bother getting married? Good post, wwiu. Gotti, what do you get out of your marriage? Do you enjoy your husband at all? I can't understand why you would stay in a marriage that even in your twenties has you saying the words, 'no wonder I'm having an affair'. Not only do you seem to have no sense of responsibility towards your husband but you are dragging your om into your drama too, and you know it. What is it that you want out of life? You're responsible for your happiness, nobody else is; be proactive and go get what you want. I cant see thngs getting better for you until you become less passive. Youve only got one life.
Author Gotti25 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Hazy Head yes I do enjoy him!! But his annoying me like hell he puts his friends before me even when we have something planned his bff calls dude meet me there then his like sorry babe I got to run not fair!! And like I said I suggested divorce he refuses to hear about it!! I don't know what the F to do!! Hahaha East I'll be in Portugal & Amsterdam next month on vacation come and visit me!!
Carrot2000 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Hazy Head yes I do enjoy him!! But his annoying me like hell he puts his friends before me even when we have something planned his bff calls dude meet me there then his like sorry babe I got to run not fair!! Then leave him. Walk out the door. Neither of you are making the other person a priority, so why are you fighting to stay in this marriage?
bentnotbroken Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Wow, way to go, put all the blame on your H and wash your hands of your choices. Ever hear of standing up to him and tellng him how you feel, how fed up you are, how hurt you are, that you want a divorce? or even tell him I've met someone else" Anyway, it seems neither of you took your vows seriously and don't know how to be husband and wife. Why did you two even bother getting married? Ditto WWIU.
Author Gotti25 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 I don"t know guys are right!! I haven't spoken to the OM since 3 days ago. I sent a text 3 hours ago to get my expensive stuff that I left over and still no response lameee!!
East7 Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Hahaha East I'll be in Portugal & Amsterdam next month on vacation come and visit me!! No problem honey, MP me..
fooled once Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Darling if you walk out the door he really can't do much about it. You're a big girl now. Your last question should have been 'no wonder I'm getting a divorce hmmmm??'. You don't have a reason to be having an A you have a reason to be having a life. Get out of the M and get your life going. Yep Wow, way to go, put all the blame on your H and wash your hands of your choices. Ever hear of standing up to him and tellng him how you feel, how fed up you are, how hurt you are, that you want a divorce? or even tell him I've met someone else" Anyway, it seems neither of you took your vows seriously and don't know how to be husband and wife. Why did you two even bother getting married? Yep As for needing to get your "expensive" things from him... come on. You go over for a booty call at 3 am. You "left" things there - INTENTIONALLY I would bet. You gave yourself another reason to see him. Forget the items. If you truly want to stop the affair and stop disrespecting your H, then you would not care and call it a lesson learned.
Hazyhead Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Yep Yep As for needing to get your "expensive" things from him... come on. You go over for a booty call at 3 am. You "left" things there - INTENTIONALLY I would bet. You gave yourself another reason to see him. Forget the items. If you truly want to stop the affair and stop disrespecting your H, then you would not care and call it a lesson learned. I agree with this - I think you manipulate the situation to your own selfish needs. If you're not happy with the way your husband treats you, and you want more that he will give, leave. I feel for your OM. You are playing both of these men. Choose your path and commit to it.
woinlove Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 I agree with this - I think you manipulate the situation to your own selfish needs. If you're not happy with the way your husband treats you, and you want more that he will give, leave. I feel for your OM. You are playing both of these men. Choose your path and commit to it. I'm not sure the OM wants anything more than these booty calls ... well, and to not get in trouble with her H. But, I agree Gotti is playing. Gotti, I get the impression that you are more or less where you want to be. Sounds like you want to stay married and you say you like having sex with different men, and you like this OM. I can see the problem for your H, and your life certainly isn't one I would want, but what exactly is the problem you would like to solve?
Woggle Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 Just leave your Husband and be with this other man instead of blaming your H for your actions. He can't hold you hostage. From reading some of your own posts it seems that you actually get off on the drama and playing with fire. If I were him we would have been divorced already.
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