aeion Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 So ive finally managed to work up the courage to ask out a girl ive liked for a long time. we've been decent friends but we would never really hang out casually... Anyway, so i ask her out and we have a pretty great first date (dinner, good conversation). We dont kiss that night. So i asked her for a second date, and she said yes. It happens to also be on valentines day. Im asking for some advice about... well everything. Im really nervous and dont want to mess this up. so, DOs and DONTS?
Cee Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I had a 1st date on Valentine's Day 2 years ago. It was on a Saturday night so it was a coincidental thing. We went to a dance party and the electricity went out in the place around 1 am. So people pretty much occupied themselves with kissing. My date and I did too. It was a fun night and he asked me out again. It didn't led anywhere with the guy, but it was my most memorable date ever. I have 2 suggestions: 1) Look at the event listings for your town/city. I guarantee you that there will be interesting things going on. Take her to one of those events so your 2nd date will be a little more interesting than usual. 2) Get a dinner reservation in right away. Valentine's Day packs the restaurants and it may be hard to find a place. Valentine's Day will be the backdrop of your date, but it doesn't need to be anxiety provoking. One fun thing you can do with your date is do people watching. Look at the couples around you and make up funny stories about them.
Lilmisus Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 ONLY kiss on the second date (or any date for that matter) if it feels right for both of you. If she's giving you the look like "hey, I want you" then go for it. If she's laughing and touching your arm or whatever a lot, then those are good signs that she wants you to. But if she seems a bit cold any time you take a step towards her and her "personal space" take it as it's either too early, or she's not wanting you to. But some do's (only if she's giving good signs): 1. Hold her hand 2. Compliment her on what she's wearing/how she looks, but don't come off as fake, girls can spot a fake compliment from a mile away. 3. Bring a TINY Valentine's day gift. Not a bouquet of roses, or a huge box of chocolates, or jewelry, but maybe one rose or a card. It's Valentine's day after all, and even if she doesn't seem it, she may be disappointed if you don't acknowledge that fact in a small way. 4. Keep a conversation going about her, make her feel admired. 5. Dress to impress. 6. Give a kiss goodnight (rules still apply from above), but unless she wants to, don't make it a make-out session. Some don'ts: 1. Don't forget the reservations. 2. Don't even look at other girls while she's around (it doesn't matter how hot that chick is over to the right, she'll notice). 3. Don't take things too quickly. The slower, the better. If you have to wait to kiss her, WAIT. It'd be worth it if you get it on another date, or later on in this one. 4. Don't keep the conversation going about yourself for too long, or keep too much silence in between. Yes, you should talk about yourself, but you want her to know that she's what matters to you right at that moment. 5. Even though you want to let her know you want her, don't come off too strong. Leave some mystery there, and don't make her feel like you're in love with her only on the second date. Wait till the third for that (kidding). Seriously though, if you come off too strong, she'll get bored sooner. There is truth in the "playing hard to get" rule. Play it. 6. Don't make how much money you spend on this date (or any date) an issue. I've had a guy look through the entire bill and say "What the ***" if it was more than he expected it to be, even by two dollars. Sometimes I was forced to pay because he was so mad over it. Even if you were expecting to pay like I dunno, 20 dollars and the bill is 100, unless they made a huge mistake, don't let her see you sweat it. Wait till you're on your own to freak out about it. Not only is it a major turn off, it's also rude. But after all is said and done, the number ONE thing you should do, is to have fun. Hopes this helps, good luck!
jane100 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I found my last "second date" nerve-wracking lol! And I fretted about this on similar subjects. But, honestly, don't worry about it. Just let it takes its course and enjoy yourself, the nervousness makes it very exciting too! If a kiss seems to come up fine, but if it doesn't I think that is fine too.
mitchell Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Do what feels right. I had to laugh. A few posts below your's is a woman who had sex on her first date and was wondering if this was OK!
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