z00m25 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Hello again, this is my 2nd thread in this forum needing some more advice. Well a long story short me and my ex gf broke up a month ago yesterday, was soooo hard at the start but i feel like im finally getting over it. I had an issue with her going out to bars with her being underage and talking a little to friendly with people from her work, and then one time she "fell asleep at some dudes house" drove me insane! The worst is still right before i fall asleep but other than that I'm doing alot better. I joined the gym and started to tan which def helps. If anyone is recently broken up I would highly recommend doing those two things. And also Ive met a few new people out here so they've been having me over several times a week to play poker and watch entourage. Now for my dilemma. We had moved away from home, I am originally from Pitt PA but am now living in Columbus ohio. I moved away honestly to be with her, and she had so much drama back home that we wouldnt go out to avoid most of these people. I dont know what happened but one day all of her friends decided to turn on her and would constantly harass her via facebook and make fun of her, it was a daily thing. It should be known that since moving back she is all bff again with them now so go figure. The other reason i moved was for this job i currently have, but living on my own with not so many friends and away from my family is not very fun. So recently I have been debating moving back in with my folks. We left on bad terms since everybody apparently hated my ex but now everyone has welcomed me back so moving in would be nice to avoid paying rent and all my other bills i currently have. Some pros/cons I have done some thinking about and honestly can only think of one pro for staying out here and thats the job. Im currently making 14 an hour and in the next 2-3 years ill be maxed at 25 an hour and making bank. Cons however include, living on my own, paying all kinds of bills when my ex got me in some serious (and i mean serious) credit card debt (i had to pay for everything the whole 2 years we dated, i think she bought wendys once), no family or true friends out here, the job is moving 35 minutes away in may so I will have to move and start over yet again, and my credits for school will not transfer out here so if i go home i need 4 classes but if i go out here i need 13. All signs point towards moving home where the only things id have to worry about is my phone bill, car payment, and ins. So that would eliminate roughly 500-700$ in other bills (havent calculated) and I'm not going to lie originally I was just going to move back to try to get back with her. But now I'm honestly just doing it for me and my mental health. I like the area out here but living alone sucks and I'm not the best at meeting people where as back home I have a really good amount of friends. Just wanted to hear some thoughts and opinions from other people. Oh and my one fear i do have about moving home is not having a for sure job. I can maybe get back in at my old job where we left on good terms but thats no gaurentee. With the job market how its been and the economy I dont want to get stuck with nothing, just need to get my debt handled so i can get on with my life.
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