P&R Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I know everyone is different, but one thing I've been pondering lately is how long does one "date" before actually entering a real relationship? When is it time too say I quit if a relationship isn't blooming?
East7 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I'd say around 6 weeks (1-2 months). If it doesn't become a real R in 2 months, it is time to walk. If both partners doesn't demonstrate reciprocated interest at the first stage, it is probably never going to work !
LifesBeachy Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I'd say no longer than 2 months. Depending on a lot of factors, of course. Frequency of seeing them being one... So maybe 2 months +/- a week.. It's just one of those things you have to feel out. If I haven't committed in about 2 months, I'm obviously not THAT gung-ho about the guy. And if he hasn't committed to me..well, then I'm all shades of anxious and surely for good reason. . .
Jazzari Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I just went through this and wondering when to have the talk was agonizing. It's especially hard when the relationship is long distance and you can't physically see each other as often as you would like. We met online and emailed 2-3 times every day for about 2 months. Then we finally met for a weekend trip. We did one more weekend after that and then a week long visit. After a total of knowing each other for 3 1/2 months we made a committment.
elastica Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 For me it has been much longer than what the above posters said. Anywhere btw 3 months and a year.
Lilmisus Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 For me it has been much longer than what the above posters said. Anywhere btw 3 months and a year. Wow, a year?? I couldn't imagine waiting that long to say that I'm officially in a relationship with someone. But hey, to each their own. I personally agree with everyone else above. My boyfriend and I "talked" for two months before we decided that we were officially "dating." To me, that was too long, especially since we didn't show any physical signs of affection in those two months. But once we were an official couple, that definitely changed. So, my answer would be 1-2 months. Anything sooner..how can you tell if you really know the person? Anything later..it just comes across as you're in the friend zone and things aren't going to progress.
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