Best Friend Rebounding?

[sarahdepre]

Basically, I'm in love with my best friend of 2 years and we've had a thing for 6 months or so. Something happened last month, I messed up, but he messed up as well by getting a girlfriend 3 days after I messed up. I apologized to him for what I did and he apologized for not telling me about this girl.

 

He basically told me that up until what I did, he didn't want to be with anyone but me. He was a little attracted to the girl but couldn't even think about it because he liked me so much. As soon as I messed up by basically saying I couldn't be with him, he says that he felt awful he had lost me and he realized he didn't want to lose her, too. We're on good terms now and still the one the other can trust most.

 

He says he can't lie and he still likes me, and he wanted to be with me first, but the fact that I can't be with him made him not like me as much. It's been about 3 weeks into this relationship for him and he told me this just a few days ago.

 

He still talks to me like he always had, and I know it's wrong but I can't act any differently towards him than I have in the past year. I flirt with him, whenever I smile he'll grin and say I like your teeth, or I like your lips. Or say that his mom is always talking about me and how pretty I am. He always wants to know about my day. I still get good morning texts and good night texts. I'm not the type to do this with someone's boyfriend, but to me he's not someone's boyfriend, he's the person that knows me the best.

 

A million things make me think it's a rebound relationship: she became his girlfriend 3 days after what I did, he seriously downgraded, he still likes me.

 

In any case, circumstances have changed and I now know I want to be with him more than anything but at the same time I care about him and I don't want to mess things up if what he has is serious. He already knows I like him so should I just leave it at that? Or should I tell him I want him?

Edited February 11, 2011 by sarahdepre