justletgox51 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 How ironic. Valentine's day is supposed to be the day when many people in the world will be extra lovey dovey with their special significant someone. Except Valentine's day for me this year is going to be trying my best to avoid my ex on his birthday, as possible. You see, I'm a sophomore high school student who just turned 15 years old last year of December, and he's a junior in our high school who's going to turn 17 this Valentine's day. We broke up last year of the last week of November after 11 months of dating, (story links: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t256150/ , http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t258245/) and I realize there were already some signs that we were at the brink of giving up. We had mini break ups when we hit 7 months (and I guess it's because I lost some feelings for him, had some trust issues with his crush that he liked for such a long time while I was away on 3 week vacation out of the country) but we were strong. Though, last year of November was the end. And I feel like this break up has been said and done, and I accept it. Though, I have been thinking and trying to follow this quote: If you don't know what to do or what to say, do nothing and say nothing. It really helps. But it's his birthday next week in just 4 days, and we both go to a self-directed learning high school. Meaning, all students from all grades (freshmen to senior) are required to go to any departments as they wish, without being assigned like traditional high schools. I hope you get what I mean. Anyway, I just know I'm going to hear so many birthday greetings from people for him since he's very popular, and I'm planning to just go completely invisible to him (stay in one department or quickly hide into another that he doesn't go to and stay there for the whole day.) LOL. Anyway, I've been on NC for a month and 15 days. (Why the heck am I counting?! =.=") So... Yeah. Also, I remember I asked advice from my English teacher a month ago on how to deal with my problem and he told me to just let him be, and how teenagers are very immature at our age. He also said that he also had a girlfriend in his high schools year in which he spent for 6 years and they broke up. Then 2 years after, they started talking and became friends. So, my question is... If you see your ex every day at work, or at school and you two broke up in bad terms, pretends that you don't exist at all, and has already blocked/deleted you on Facebook on your birthday and even regretted saying happy birthday to you... Would you still say, "Happy birthday?" I'm 98 % sure I won't say anything at all because I feel like I've done quiet enough. Since the beginning, I was the one who introduced to him first, confessed my love for him first, made the first moves, we both tried but parents, school, trust issues, and friends kept getting in the way, therefore, he ended things apart, while I started chasing for a good 1-2 weeks. Anyway, I hope I didn't annoy you with this thread
gator12 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Unless you are completely moved on and prepared to be friends, there is no point in messaging him right now. You don't owe him a happy birthday message, and frankly he doesn't deserve it. Stay strong and stay in NC. -Gator
Good Arms Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Agree with Gator. My ex's birthday is the day after Valentine's Day. I'm dreading thinking about things on on those two special days which I had been looking forward to spending with her. I won't be contacting her, though. We parted on friendly terms, but I know I just have to move on, and even if it conflicts with my wishes to be a nice person, the fact I still have unrequited feelings for her, there's no point and only hurt to be found in wishing her a happy birthday. It would be a lie anyway, I don't wish her anything bad but how could I genuinely hope she has a happy birthday when she tossed me out of her life? Just try and see it as any other day and stay NC.
Author justletgox51 Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Yeah, I agree that I shouldn't. However, I've asked my two best friends and one said: No, you shouldn't because he won't even care plus it'll make you really sad. If you want him to be sad on his birthday or realize something, don't greet him. My other best friend told me: Yeah you can if you want. I mean, if you see him just smile, say a simple: "happy birthday" and walk. Don't give attitude but just walk and you're over and done with it." LOL, we human beings are so confusing... Anyway, I'm still not over the break up, and I don't even want to be his friend because the pain still hurts after 2 months of breaking it off. But yeah I'll continue to NC, I just hope I'll be strong when it comes on Monday. Boo..
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