Kevin2412 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I might be the worst guy in the world. About a year I caught my wife cheating on me. I walked into it on the bedroom. It was the one of the worst things I have ever saw. So over the next few months, I started seeing my best friend. We had been best friends since high school! See had just gotton divocived and had moved backed home with her 3 kids. We never dated in school or college, just hooked uped and had sex. But we called each other all the time through oou the years. We had a special bond that no one could understand. So over these next month we started dating and she wanted me to commit fully to the relationship, but I had a hard time doing that, bc I wasnt divocied yet. But I loved her more than anything in the world. Her kids were like my kids. I loved them. She travels alot for work, aand is a women that has to be in control of everything. I was so use to being in control my whole life I didnt no if I wanted that to be the next step, or if I wanted to take on 3 girls. So from June until December this year I cheated on her many of times, hoping I would firguer out what I wanted and hoping she would never found out. But during my last affair I realized I had what I wanted right in front of me the whole time, it was my best friend and sole mate. I had gotton so deep into lie's I didnt know how to get out, so i told her I need 3 weeks to firgure it out. The next night she busted me with other girl. I have never felt so bad in my life. The one thing I told my self is that I would never do what my x wife did to me, to any else. Especial this girl that I have know for 20 years. It has been almost 1 and half months since this has happen, we had been talkinf and doing alot together, but we are missing something. She just statred last friday going to therpist and the therpist said we need to take a break from each other. So it has been two days with no contact at all. Iam going crazy. Her parents hate me right now, her bother also, but my family loves us and is supporting us trying to make this work... I need help in advice.. I dont derseve her, but I love her more than anything in the world.
GreenX Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Not sure if this is the right advice or not.. but, I feel you went into this new relationship with your BF too soon after your relationship with your ex-W. Only you know why you cheated on your BF so I don't know what to say on that but all you can do is continue to show her remorse and see what happens from there. If you two can look past it and move forward then good on you. If not, it's another one of life's lessons.
Woggle Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Quite honestly you are just as bad as your ex wife at this point. After knowing the pain of betrayal you should have known better than to inflict it on somebody else.
Darren Steez Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 So you were so deep in your lies that you told her you wanted time to figure it out and then the next day you went ahead and cheated? Look we can make excuses for how we are treated, your ex did the dirty on you fair play you have every right to be hurt, but then you spout nonsense like this woman was your soul mate and you shared a bond no one can understand and yet you repeatedly cheated on her. You say you discovered what you want was right there in front if you and yet you still went and cheated on her. So what do you expect from her? You can't keep it in your pants, it seems the sexual gratification out weighs any emotional bond you might have for her. Truth is you don't love her, she's just a safe bet who won't do the dirty on you like your ex but because you don't love her or respect her, it's easy to lie and cheat for you. I think you should let her go and stop messing her around until you sort yourself out. You don't now what you want. Good luck.
Author Kevin2412 Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Not sure what to say to that. But I do love her, I was scared of making a commentment to having three kids a family that is over bearing. Yes I messed uped. The only thing I can do is contuire down this path iam going.
Linda9999 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 So you cheated on your wife with this other woman, then you cheated on the other woman with more than one other woman, then you told her you wanted time to figure things out, then you cheated on her AGAIN?? Dude, you have a problem. Have you considered you may be a sex addict?
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