Rxwoman Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 OK, I still think some are being too hard on OP. OP, I'm assuming youre fairly young ( early twentys), and your fiance is the only serious girlfriend you've had. I think a five year relationship for young people is hard. And what is worse? A one night fling, or a relationship that carried on with the other women? He is early twentys and that's kind of the age when one is supposed to be shopping around. Maybe if you elaborated regarding the troubles you were having with the fiance. Were you two broke up, or just bickering alot? Were you seeing both women at the same time? How were the issues resolved? Or were they?
sweetjasmine Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I think a five year relationship for young people is hard. [...] He is early twentys and that's kind of the age when one is supposed to be shopping around. That's a fair point, but if having a 5 year exclusive relationship is hard and if you're at the age when one is supposed to be shopping around, then you shouldn't be proposing marriage to someone because you're obviously not ready for it.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 OK, I still think some are being too hard on OP. OP, I'm assuming youre fairly young ( early twentys), and your fiance is the only serious girlfriend you've had. I think a five year relationship for young people is hard. And what is worse? A one night fling, or a relationship that carried on with the other women? He is early twentys and that's kind of the age when one is supposed to be shopping around. Maybe if you elaborated regarding the troubles you were having with the fiance. Were you two broke up, or just bickering alot? Were you seeing both women at the same time? How were the issues resolved? Or were they? I don't think it matters what their relationship troubles are. Cheating is cheating whether they had a small fight over what to have for dinner or a major blow out about their relationship. And he has said he was seeing both women at the same time, that's what cheating is. I agree with sweetjasmine that if he is young and wanted to play the field then he shouldn't have proposed or began planning a wedding.
lululucy Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Really, confessing this to her is only going to ease your conscience while completely destroying her. Jazzari has it right. PMC is a definitely necessity, and maybe some personal therapy for yourself as well so you can figure out whether this is something you'd be capable of doing again.
Lauriebell82 Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Really, confessing this to her is only going to ease your conscience while completely destroying her. Jazzari has it right. PMC is a definitely necessity, and maybe some personal therapy for yourself as well so you can figure out whether this is something you'd be capable of doing again. She'll be more destroyed if she found out AFTER they are married. I agree counseling is a great idea for both of them.
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