sweetblubrry Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 What do you do? My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me 2 weeks out completely out of nowhere. There were no warning signs. It was very emotional for the both of us. He was crying telling me that I deserve better than him, he doesn't deserve me, etc. He also I felt came up with a lot of excuses with his friends saying he is different around me, that he can't be himself. I have no idea... but did have a mutual friend talk to him and she said that he just doesn't know what he wants in life or who he is. I am devastated. Does this mean there is no hope? I am so happy with him.. but he has been very stressed about his life and where he is going. Things haven't exactly been going his way lately (he had some car trouble, traffic issues, license suspended, etc) And he is stuck in a job that he wants to get out of. I feel like no matter how wonderful I tell him he is, he won't believe it. What is worse, is that his best friend did this exact same thing to one of my best friends a few months ago. The whole "i dont know who i am or what i want" card. It kills me because he just does not believe anything good that I say about him. This also I wonder stemmed from a convo we had 3 weeks ago. I posted about it on my last post. he told me he didn't like sex, after I confronted him about it. Just in general he does not enjoy it. I was upset at first, but I accepted it. But he got all upset at me during the breakup saying I said something was wrong with him... when I never did! It is just such a HUGE issue for him, and I'm not sure why. I think because he faced a lot of ridicule about it or he is having internal conflict about it. I love him, why would I say that? He has been dumped by many girls when he admits this to them... And when he dumped one girl, she actually went out and spread all these rumors at work about him saying he couldn't get it up, he's gay, etc. Well I am the classy one and I have not said a thing. I really think he was afraid that I would be just like them and do the same thing. But I am still not 100% that this is the issue. I am not sure what to do. I love him and I miss him so much. we work together so i am bound to run into him. But I have not seen him in almost 2 weeks and we have not spoken through phone/facebook/email. I am waiting for him to contact me.... we have not spoken since the breakup night. What do you do in situations like this? I don't want to lose him but I don't think I can be friends with him. Do guys in these situations normally come around eventually? I had one ex do something similar (though he had a lot more problems like anger) and he eventually came back. But by then I had realized what a jerk he was (very angry, abusive verbally). This guy is not a jerk... I just think he is very confused. The only thing he has done wrong thus far is this breakup. Our relationship was very close and we did not fight, and had merely disagreements.
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