PIM Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 So been dating a girl for about 5 months and Vday is coming up. Basically the night I've setup is a really nice dinner at this amazing Italian/Japanese fusion restaurant, and drinks afterwards at this rooftop bar near by. And also sending her chocolates on Monday. Now I think she might be buying a gift for me, and I'm wondering should I also be buying a gift for her as well? Or is what I have planned enough?
somedude81 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 V-day is retarded. Why are you doing anything at all? It's nothing but a stupid holiday where for some reason he has to prove his love to her
ginger337 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I think what you have planned is great. I know if I was her I would be more than happy with such a night!
Lilmisus Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 What you have planned sounds great! But the cherry on top to really woo her on Valentine's day would be a nice little gift. By little gift, I mean nothing big at all, like set a limit of maybe 20-50 dollars max on a gift and chocolate. Some ideas: ANYTHING homemade (huge bonus points), scarf, necklace or bracelet, roses, stuffed animal, or anything else you'd think she'd enjoy.
alphamale Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I think what you have planned is great. I know if I was her I would be more than happy with such a night! this ^^^^^
Pyro Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 sounds like a great night. Don't just do thoughtful things like this on a "holiday". Do things like this at any sporatic moment.
lenny Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I am going through a first valentines day as well so hear you on how stressful it is. I really think what you have planned sounds just perfect.
cerridwen Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Adding a gift to what you've already planned would be overkill. Your night sounds perfecto!
t0ri Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Adding a gift to what you've already planned would be overkill. Your night sounds perfecto! Agreed! Have fun!
snug.bunny Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 So been dating a girl for about 5 months and Vday is coming up. Basically the night I've setup is a really nice dinner at this amazing Italian/Japanese fusion restaurant, and drinks afterwards at this rooftop bar near by. And also sending her chocolates on Monday. Now I think she might be buying a gift for me, and I'm wondering should I also be buying a gift for her as well? Or is what I have planned enough? Sounds perfect and I think is fine as is without the gift. IF you wish to get her a little something just in case, something simple yet romantic, could be an orchid wrist corsage, a red heart journal, or a pretty scarf. Have a great time!
Els Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 V-day is retarded. Why are you doing anything at all? It's nothing but a stupid holiday where for some reason he has to prove his love to her Well, no wonder you're having trouble with girls. It isn't necessary by any means, but it sure is nice if the OP wants to do that. Sounds great, OP. I would leave off the gift as well, unless you REALLY want to get one.
Anxiety Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Its tricky, you still might want to get a little gift. Last year, I had only been seeing my now exgf for 2.5 months. The only thing I bought for her was a card. She was happy to get the card at first, then her roommate came home with flowers. Then she got pissed. It took 1.5 months before our relationship got back to normal again.
LifesBeachy Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I think that sounds lovely! I wish this was my Valentine's Day! Maybe a hand-made card with a personal message with the chocolates telling her how much you enjoyed the night with her and such... but I think it's fine without that or a gift though.
somedude81 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Its tricky, you still might want to get a little gift. Last year, I had only been seeing my now exgf for 2.5 months. The only thing I bought for her was a card. She was happy to get the card at first, then her roommate came home with flowers. Then she got pissed. It took 1.5 months before our relationship got back to normal again. Aahhh, and that's why valentines day is such a great holiday
yongyong Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I would give her gift if I know she would give something back around the same value. I would throw tory burch flats or cluth. I guarantee you will see her tears
daphne Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Adding a gift to what you've already planned would be overkill. Your night sounds perfecto! I third that
daphne Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Its tricky, you still might want to get a little gift. Last year, I had only been seeing my now exgf for 2.5 months. The only thing I bought for her was a card. She was happy to get the card at first, then her roommate came home with flowers. Then she got pissed. It took 1.5 months before our relationship got back to normal again. If she's playing competition with another girl, she's an immature brat. If her gf's bf got her a car, does that mean you get yours a house?
Star Gazer Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I love getting flowers at work; I think most women do...and having VDay on Monday means they'll be there all week! Maybe do that instead of the chocolates...? Otherwise, the night sounds lovely.
Author PIM Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Well too late on the chocolates ordered them yesterday. Here's hoping she's also not allergic to strawberries which is something I didn't consider until just this second . Yeah I wasn't really planning on giving her a gift but now that I think she's going to buy me one, it always feels weird to me to get a gift and not give one in return. Well here's hoping for the best.
dreamingoftigers Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 V-day is retarded. Why are you doing anything at all? It's nothing but a stupid holiday where for some reason he has to prove his love to her It's a day of significance, love it or hate it, it would be weird in a relationship to try to ignore it. It would say something odd by opting out of a chance to show your SO that you cared for them just to make a politcal statement. Well too late on the chocolates ordered them yesterday. Here's hoping she's also not allergic to strawberries which is something I didn't consider until just this second . Yeah I wasn't really planning on giving her a gift but now that I think she's going to buy me one, it always feels weird to me to get a gift and not give one in return. Well here's hoping for the best. The more important thing then a gift (doesn't the chocolate count as a gift anyways?) would be a note or card that is written by you telling her the things that you like/love about her and how she is special in your life. You can't manufacture things like that, and they are relationship steroids for us.
somedude81 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 It's a day of significance, love it or hate it, it would be weird in a relationship to try to ignore it. It would say something odd by opting out of a chance to show your SO that you cared for them just to make a politcal statement. No, it's not. I'd say that important days of significance for a relationship are anniversaries and each others birthdays. In American culture, valentiines day has devolved into a day where the man has prove his love to the woman. It's completely sexist.
welikeincrowds Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 No, it's not. I'd say that important days of significance for a relationship are anniversaries and each others birthdays. In American culture, valentiines day has devolved into a day where the man has prove his love to the woman. It's completely sexist. Look, you can vote red or you can vote blue -- or don't vote, I don't care. If you care about her, you'll make sure she feels loved.
P&R Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 V-day is just another day to show that special someone that you care.
Pyro Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 V-day is just another day to show that special someone that you care. I think it is a day that benefits those moreso who give the bare minimum effort in a relationship.I am NOT saying that anyone who celebrates V-day is giving the bare minimum effort, but if V-day did not exist just think how many couples never would do anything romantic. I consider myself to be a romantic and when I feel like being romantic and surprising her with something then I do it. I don't need to wait for her birthday, our anniversary, and V-day to do it.
LexiB Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 The evening you've planned sounds beautiful hon! If anything, since everything currently revolves around food, I would suggest giving her something inedible that she'll be able to keep as a momento of your first v- day together. Nothing fancy - a love note, a card w/ a cute msg or inside joke, a single rose. You get the idea. Since you're presumably already footing the bill for the fancy restaurant and cocktails, a proper gift in addition to that would be over the top at this stage in your relationship. Have fun!!
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