lostwithoutliz Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Is there any chance of getting back together with my Ex? I’ve been reading the forums and they all advocate NC straight after breaking-up. But what if that NC was delayed in starting? Is there still a chance on reconciling later? My gf broke up with me a month ago. Because we lived together it took me two weeks before I could move out and the last two weeks have been spent dividing up furniture and general stuff of ours (Transferring bills etc.) . Is there still a chance that we will reconcile, if I go NC when I leave to go on a two month vacation (she wants to see me off at the airport.)? This is the second time we have broken up and got back together after a month. We then stayed together for two and a half years before this break–up. We really had a special relationship that slowly turned sour 6 months ago after a comment from one of her friends. We enjoyed going into the outdoors together and continued to go on “date nights”. I love her with all my heart. I’m hoping that this is not the end and things might change in the future, in regards to getting back together. Any advice is really needed ATM.
2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 (edited) Can you give a bit more info about the break up, what happened with the friend, did you plead and beg and send flowers and chocolate? I would say that you probably need to go NC as she is mucking you about a bit, dumping you then wanting to hang out with you and stuff and see you off at the airport (make sure you're gone maybe!), and you seem to be in friendzone, DON'T let you be her 'feel better about the break up' buffer because you're still talking, you'll be hanging about waiting for ever to get back with you while she goes on other dates and maybe makes up for her her mind one day to date you again - which is doubtful if your still like a puppy dog at her heels. Tell her it is awkward to talk and you need space to move on, then go NC, if she rabbits on about being friends and missing talking to you and all that s*** then just say you never wanted to be just friends and you don't think you ever can. Once this is done delete all FB and contact details for her so you cannot contact her again, harsh yes but you will only keep hurting yourself and you are guaranteed to phone her in a few weeks once you've had a few, or viewed her with some other guy on FB, or whatever and totally screw it for ever because 1) you are giving her the signs you are a back burner boy just waiting for her and 2) you will probably say wussy needy things top her and this will totally validate her putting you in friendship jail, only this time she wil throw away the key. I would recommend doing this very soon, in fact as sson as you can so she gets the message, don't whatever you do let her sweet talk you into anything, like one more meet or anything not even our airport thing, she will not be there to see you off right? I know this all sounds harsh but it is the only way YOU are going to heal, and it is the only way she will get the meesage, and you will get your answer in due course if she really wants you or not. If she doesn't pursue you in say a few months or so you know she had no feelings for you, but don't wait about for her, get on with your life, go on other dates and if she does come back you can decide on your terms if she is just checking up on you or wants back; you might not want back with her. 2011 Edited February 10, 2011 by 2011
Author lostwithoutliz Posted February 12, 2011 Author Posted February 12, 2011 Can you give a bit more info about the break up, what happened with the friend, did you plead and beg and send flowers and chocolate? The friend said to her that I wasn't worth going out with because "I was into the relationship more than she was". Which slowly planted seeds of doubt about us. And yes I did beg and plead (newbie mistake), which I think has done some damage but not to the point where she completely hates me and won't talk to me. The break-up occurred while she was away for new years, I had to stay behind to work. She has indicated over the preceding 4 months before the break up that she wasn't happy, but i tried even harder to keep her and change and improve myself so she wouldn't leave, but i pretty sure it made things worth.
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