MSNatalia Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I went on a second date with a guy and everything seemed to go well. He said we had great conversations, kissed me for a while, etc. The problem is, he hasn't contacted me since then, it's been almost a week. Did he lose interest? Or perhaps I gave him signs I was lukewarm around him? While we were kissing, I thought I heard a noise and pulled away to look around.
ginger337 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 The worst thing you can do is to overanalyze, which by the last comment it seems you are (I am not criticizing, I know because I'm currently scrutinizing everything in my own relationship due to recent events). Just relax. He may be busy, he may be waiting on you to make a move, or he may have lost interest. My advice to is to wait a couple more days, maybe just after the one week mark, and contact him yourself, with a casual hello. See how that conversation goes. If all goes well, possibly invite him out, or if he seems to be cold or uninterested let it go. If anything, at least you took action and showed you were intersted and now the ball is in his court.
Author MSNatalia Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Yeah, the general consensus seems to be I take the initiative but I already put some effort in pursuing him, so I don't want to come off too desperate.
spiderowl Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I think if he was interested in pursuing it, he'd have been in touch by now. Guys say all sorts of things in person that they don't necessarily mean. They might sort of mean it at the time and then, later on when they think about whether to meet again, they don't do anything. If a guy doesn't contact you, it probably means: he's not sure about you; he's not interested; he's waiting for you to show some interest. Personally, I wouldn't bother if it's the latter as he's playing games.
daphne Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I would not pursue if I were you. It sends the wrong message. I think you already know that most of the time, if a guy can't be bothered to call you in a week, he's not really thinking about you that much. Act on that how you will.
Eddie Edirol Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Its been a week, I say you send a quick hello text just to feel him out. if he seems standoffish, then you know.
PhillyDude Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Someone has not contacted you in a week and you are asking are they still interested?? Please tell me you are joking-lol
creighton0123 Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Take initiative and get an answer. Realize that regardless of how busy people are, there's really no such thing as "too busy", at least when it comes to finding time in less than a week to pick up the phone and make a short phone call... Every time I hear "I've been really busy" used as an excuse, whether from a friend or family member (hasn't happened yet with my boyfriend) I feel like slapping them silly. Edit: And by "get an answer", I don't mean "send a text". Give him a call. If he doesn't answer, leave a voicemail. If he doesn't call back in 24 hours, move on. Do not send him a text message. They're cheap, childish, and inevitably flawed as a form of communication. If he can't take the time to at least tell you "Not interested", he's not worth your time.
waynebrady Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 I think if he was interested in pursuing it, he'd have been in touch by now. Guys say all sorts of things in person that they don't necessarily mean. They might sort of mean it at the time and then, later on when they think about whether to meet again, they don't do anything. If a guy doesn't contact you, it probably means: he's not sure about you; he's not interested; he's waiting for you to show some interest. Personally, I wouldn't bother if it's the latter as he's playing games. Well women do the exact same thing now don't they?
PhillyDude Posted February 11, 2011 Posted February 11, 2011 Well women do the exact same thing now don't they? When women do it its called something else not playing games. Lol
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