david king Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Okay, I started a thread the other day about asking a girl at the gym out and today I asked her and she said yes. So that is good news. However, the bad news is that it is a college gym and I learned today after asking her that she is only 19 while I am 27 year old grad student. To be fair people, especially girls, often think I am 6-8 years younger than I am and I go to the gym everyday and take good care of myself. We are also the same height and look roughly the same age. Also, this did all start when the first time we saw each other at the gym she made eye contact a lot and smiled at me a lot and I talked to to her and things went well. I do have a 'youthful enthusiam' and she is mature for her age so in the middle we connect really well. So all in all things are good but should I back away cause of age difference?
mtber75 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Especially if she a Asian:) Probably over 10 years will pushing it because of the generational gap. I go for the maturity anyways. If she's mature beyond her age than go for it!
Star Gazer Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 How young either of you look has NOTHING to do with compatibility or maturity levels. She was in high school last year. You were already out of college last year, probably already in grad school. You were thinking about your thesis, she was slamming her locker. That should help you put it into perspective. 29 and 37, not a problem. Nut NINETEEN and 27, HUGE difference.
smudge21 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Being mature at different rates. Just because someone's been on the planet longer than someone else, doesn't mean they're more mature or anything. I'm in my late thirties but have a wide variety of friends ranging from 18 to late forties. I've also dated girls in the past few years from 20 to 38. Age was mentioned but it was never a concern as we got along. If you feel comfortable with someone and they feel the same way then don't let age get in the way.
milkmaterial Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 i know 33 year olds or 34 year old guys who specifically target only 19 -23 year olds. so its ok i guess.
denise_xo Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I think the important thing here is whether the two of you experience it as a problem. If you don't, then don't make it into one. There are no fixed rules on this.
Author david king Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Thanks for the replies and the thoughts. As I said, even at this earlier stage we get along great and have a lot of the views on things and sense of humor and all of that. Since I am the older one, I am mainly talking about being respectful and also hoping that this woundn't set any sort of bad predicent in my life where I would eventually end up as a one of those 85 year olds who chases after 25 year olds.
Rxwoman Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Personally I think that anything under ten years age difference ( once people are adults, of course) is mostly OK. I just think it's creepy when the difference gets to the point where one person is old enough to be the other person's parent. Under ten years, AFTER age 20-ish is ok. 11 to 15 years, approaching creepy. More than 15 years, puts it in the " I'm old enough to be your mother/father " category, and is just plain icky. I honestly dont understand how some men do that.
LifesBeachy Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 You've seen my other post on the age difference I have... And I'd think your age difference is a pebble dropped into an ocean; no where near a big deal. You've already said you connected really well. I'd say no harm in swinging for a relationship. Ask her out!
NYCGirly Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 How young either of you look has NOTHING to do with compatibility or maturity levels. She was in high school last year. You were already out of college last year, probably already in grad school. You were thinking about your thesis, she was slamming her locker. That should help you put it into perspective. 29 and 37, not a problem. Nut NINETEEN and 27, HUGE difference. This. Normally it's not so much the number difference as it is the difference in where you are in your lives. Her main concern is probably getting acclimated to freshman life and which frat party she and her gfs will be going to over the weekend while your main concern is finishing up your grad degree so you can embark on the "real world" and make a living (possibly starting a family soon). She may appear "mature" but she really is worlds apart (in terms of life experience) from you.
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