mtber75 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Hmmm, speaking of weaknesses...my weakness was/is falling for someone because they demonstrate strong interest in me... I have a best friend who have the same weakness and is now UNHAPPILY married to this fat, lazy and a controlling b*tch...Well at least that's what I think (know him since elementary school).
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I have a simple rule. Both parties need to be in love with each other, need to have a crush on each other and need to be addicted to each other. Preferably being able to name the specific properties that you like about each other. I agree with this. As for any specific weakness that would make me fall in love. I don't know. I have many turn ons, but just because someone exhibits one doesn't mean I will fall in love with them.
snug.bunny Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Everyone's always saying they don't want relationships. Either it's because they're too busy with life or otherwise, when given a choice, I think almost everyone would want the "casual sex without expectations". I mean let's face it, a relationship is like raising a puppy, you love it when it's affectionate but despise it when it poops on your wooden floor. But what happens when someone comes along unexpectedly and you find yourself entangled? All simply because you have a weakness? So tell me, LSers, what's your weakness, and how can others convince you to be in a relationship? Everyone wants casual sex without the expectations? Nope. My weakness? Hmm, I will know it when I see it. How can I be convinced to be in a relationship? He has to be sublimely wonderful, sexy, romantic and most importantly....one that I can trust with all of my heart!
january2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 So tell me, LSers, what's your weakness, and how can others convince you to be in a relationship? If there's an attraction there and everything aligns - it'll happen.
Rxwoman Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Well, when you say "relationship", you mean monogamy, right? Even "casual" sex is a relationship. People are different at different ages. Young people, especially younger women usually want a relationship, because they want stability for raising a family, and working on a home. More mature people, those who are close to being done with the kids, or whose kids are moved out, sometimes are satisfied with relationship that isn't going to end in marriage. And then there's those guys ( and sometimes girls) who have a GF for sex, but are really always looking for somethng "better" and therefore have no intention of committing. But they're all relationships.
Knittress Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 My desire for emotional intimacy is stronger than my sex drive, so it's not like I need to be convinced. Convincing me to spend time with you in the first place... now THAT'S difficult. I prefer my own company unless I consider a person really special.
underpants Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I don't want one. Not a romantic one. Life is just more simple without all that. Over 3 years and I think I'm better without it. Just my outlook.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I want a relationship. I've never had one, so I want one. However, there are terms and conditions. I want someone who loves me, genuinely loves me. I want someone who won't make me miserable, and even though we may fight occasionally (it happens in the best of relationships), she won't hate me, even if we break up. I hear stories about "the ex", and I am horrified. I don't want to be referred to in the same way that some of these poor guys are, however verifiable.
SmileFace Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I want a relationship. I've never had one, so I want one. However, there are terms and conditions. I want someone who loves me, genuinely loves me. I want someone who won't make me miserable, and even though we may fight occasionally (it happens in the best of relationships), she won't hate me, even if we break up. I hear stories about "the ex", and I am horrified. I don't want to be referred to in the same way that some of these poor guys are, however verifiable. I have always said this. I wish when people do break up it was mutual. I hate all the hate people seem to have for people they once loved. I wish I never have to refer to an "ex" in a bad way.
underpants Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 Of course I wish everyone seeking a partnership/relationship with another great success. It can happen and I am close friends with the genuine ongoing relationships partners I know. I will say that it is rare. A bunch of self delusion on both parts. Usually resulting in hurt, by at least one. Unfortunate no matter the delivery. So, I've decided to back off and stay out of the carnage. It is what it is.
Leeway Harris Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I often wish I could opt out of this game, but I can't. I'm hard-wired to want to be with someone, to want to be in love and have a relationship and all that stuff. If I could switch that off and just be satisfied being single, I would have done that a long time ago.
Duckduckgoose Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 I hear stories about "the ex", and I am horrified. I don't want to be referred to in the same way that some of these poor guys are, however verifiable. I wouldn't call them "poor guys". You shouldn't be inclined to pity them at all. You should see what they did wrong and don't do that same ****. If you learn from others' mistakes you are far ahead of their game. Back on topic though Can I be convinced to want a relationship? I guess. Gotta keep moving forward you know. What is my weakness? NOT TELLING! BEGONE YOU FILTHY SCUM! *hides Achilles heel* Sex with someone you are committed to >>>>>>> casual sex
blind_otter Posted February 13, 2011 Posted February 13, 2011 It is what it is. You know what I say to that?! Spork --> stab --> eye! I always feel like stabbing myself in the eye with a spork a la oedipus when I hear someone say that. I think it is what you expect that it is. Expect suckage, suckage will find you, my friend. It's devious like that. Lessons I keep getting rammed into my face, pun intended, include things like - love yourself. The more love you generate even in the nonsexual sense, the more love you will receive. Look for what you want and say it with me now - in present tense! Emotions are like signposts, they give us clues. Feeling avoidant? your heart is closed. If your heart is closed, you won't perceive love even if it's right in front of your face. Sometimes all it takes is altering your perception just the tiniest bit. The slightest most imperceptible 1/1000th of a degree (Long Dark Tea Time of the Soul Reference!!!)...and you can enter a whole new world of possibility. Positive possibility is something that you very much can generate.
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