xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Everyone's always saying they don't want relationships. Either it's because they're too busy with life or otherwise, when given a choice, I think almost everyone would want the "casual sex without expectations". I mean let's face it, a relationship is like raising a puppy, you love it when it's affectionate but despise it when it poops on your wooden floor. But what happens when someone comes along unexpectedly and you find yourself entangled? All simply because you have a weakness? So tell me, LSers, what's your weakness, and how can others convince you to be in a relationship?
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I think almost everyone would want the "casual sex without expectations". Negative. Relationship > casual sex. Though I don't have much experience with the casual sex (read: none). So what do I know...? So tell me, LSers, what's your weakness, and how can others convince you to be in a relationship? Say you like me.
johan Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 People who say they don't want a relationship are generally lying to us, themselves, or both. And there's probably a pretty serious overlap between those who say they don't want one and those who aren't capable of being in one.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Negative. Relationship > casual sex. Though I don't have much experience with the casual sex (read: none). So what do I know...? Say you like me. I guess I should have worded it more accurately I mean " casual dating + sex without expectations". If given the chance, most will want the GF /BF experience without the attachment and the unnecessary drama. So a girl telling you " I like you" would prompt you to want a relationship with her?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 People who say they don't want a relationship are generally lying to us, themselves, or both. And there's probably a pretty serious overlap between those who say they don't want one and those who aren't capable of being in one. And this could be one reason for why an " emotionally unavailable" will more likely jump into a relationship as soon as someone comes along.
pandagirl Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Unless I really, genuinely feel something for someone, I don't want to be in a relationship. I dunno, once you've been in love, it's hard to settle for anything less, IMO. As for casual sex, great for people who can handle it, but not my cup of tea.
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I guess I should have worded it more accurately I mean " casual dating + sex without expectations". If given the chance, most will want the GF /BF experience without the attachment and the unnecessary drama. Unnecessary drama in a relationship = you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person. So a girl telling you " I like you" would prompt you to want a relationship with her? It was a joke. Well kinda. But seriously though, I'd certainly want to get to know her more and see if a relationship was in the cards...
Jazzari Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 At this point in my life, I want a serious relationship that leads to marriage. However, I most certainly did not want a relationship when I first met my husband. My weakness? Falling in love.
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 My weakness? Falling in love. Hmmm, speaking of weaknesses...my weakness was/is falling for someone because they demonstrate strong interest in me...
Nexus One Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 and how can others convince you to be in a relationship? I have a simple rule. Both parties need to be in love with each other, need to have a crush on each other and need to be addicted to each other. Preferably being able to name the specific properties that you like about each other. Otherwise, no game. Whatever happens after that has been established is up to the stars, for as long as it takes.
Woggle Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 The last thing in the world I wanted when I met my wife was a relationship but she convinced me to want a relationship with her.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 At this point in my life, I want a serious relationship that leads to marriage. However, I most certainly did not want a relationship when I first met my husband. My weakness? Falling in love. I would like to emphasize this. I think even those incapable of being in love are capable of " falling" in love. Afterall, it's the honeymoon phase that gives us the urges to do things that we normally do not associate with our characters.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 The last thing in the world I wanted when I met my wife was a relationship but she convinced me to want a relationship with her. Woggle I never asked. How did you fell in love with your wife after the dissolution of your first marriage?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Hmmm, speaking of weaknesses...my weakness was/is falling for someone because they demonstrate strong interest in me... Wouldn't this fall under the category of " conveninence"? I mean, someone places themselves in your line of vision and you accept them because they're available to you.
Woggle Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Woggle I never asked. How did you fell in love with your wife after the dissolution of your first marriage? I saw her walking on the boardwalk and I struck up a conversation with her. We started talking since most of the people here in the summer are not from the area and she was another local. I originally wanted to have just a fling with her after I got to know her I fell in love.
pandagirl Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I saw her walking on the boardwalk and I struck up a conversation with her. We started talking since most of the people here in the summer are not from the area and she was another local. I originally wanted to have just a fling with her after I got to know her I fell in love. That's not being convinced though--that's falling in love.
AverageJoe Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Everyone's always saying they don't want relationships. Either it's because they're too busy with life or otherwise, when given a choice, I think almost everyone would want the "casual sex without expectations". I mean let's face it, a relationship is like raising a puppy, you love it when it's affectionate but despise it when it poops on your wooden floor. But what happens when someone comes along unexpectedly and you find yourself entangled? All simply because you have a weakness? So tell me, LSers, what's your weakness, and how can others convince you to be in a relationship? I have no desire for a relationship at this point in my life. Name something I don't already have that you could provide me. It is your post, the burden of proof lies with you.
daphne Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 what's your weakness, and how can others convince you to be in a relationship? Move slowly, be consistent and don't let me run off but don't tie me down.
StalledGirl Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 It would have to be someone really special to convince me to fall in love again really. Been a couple of years and I can't see it changing any time soon:bunny: My weakness is someone not giving up .
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Wouldn't this fall under the category of " conveninence"? I mean, someone places themselves in your line of vision and you accept them because they're available to you. Not so much convenience but rather a little bit of insecurity and fear that no one else would come along...
SmileFace Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 You don't have to convince me .This is probably the first time in my life , that I actually want a relationship. Ha, you wouldn't believe now that I want one , I am having the hardest time getting one. It is depressing actually . I don't like this one bit.
Star Gazer Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I think almost everyone would want the "casual sex without expectations". Strongly disagree. I date with serious, long-term relationships with marriage material in mind. And I sure as sh*t am not going through the trouble of maintaining myself hairless from the crotch down during the middle of winter for something casual.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Strongly disagree. I date with serious, long-term relationships with marriage material in mind. And I sure as sh*t am not going through the trouble of maintaining myself hairless from the crotch down during the middle of winter for something casual. Oh yeah, in-grown hair is painful . I wrote most, if not all. There are still the relationship minded, but my generation are all the non-commital types.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Not so much convenience but rather a little bit of insecurity and fear that no one else would come along... That is certainly something to work on. Sometimes I'm the same way.
ginger337 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I have plenty of friends who go on and on about how they don't want a relationship, when in truth they're saying this to make themselves sound like tough little things as opposed to allowing themselves to admit that they have been vuernable and heartbroken in the past, and fear it'll happen again. Hell, I've even played that game for awhile. It's all an act, but I'm sure everyone here knows that or maybe even have done this before. I am currently in a relationship which has hit what appears to be rock bottom, and I think the end is closer than I would wish for it to be (although, looking at the bigger picture, much better for my mental health). I have friends telling me once the boy and I break up that they can fix me up in a heartbeat, but I don't think thats what I want, and after this, I don't think thats what I'll want for at least some time. I don't think anyone could do anything to convince me to be in a relationship besides, well, myself. No one can say any magic words, or do anything specific to make me think otherwise. I believe it is just a matter of time and internal healing before I would be ready for that again.
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