greenwood Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 (edited) I am fully aware that there are several factors that affect a person's/couple's sexual life, such as age, life style, libido etc. But at this moment I am curious about how the frequency of sexual activities is generally affected by feelings (of love). At the end of this post I will ask my question in a simpler way, just let me elaborate a bit before I do that. Of course, when you are with someone, you feel attracted to /in love with them. But let's say, you are xx years old, and had 5 LTRs in your life. In all relationships your feelings were strong and you were genuinely attracted to / in love with all your partners. However, looking back, you realize that, generally speaking, with some partners you made love more often than with others (and the reason for this was not that somebody's sex drive was weaker). Let me also add a personal example. Let's say me and my BF usually plan to do the thing 2 times a week. However, when we do it, we get so horny so soon that we end up having sex 3 times within 12 hours (and all this has nothing to do with how long our sessions last). HOWEVER, although I was genuinely attracted to my ex as well, nothing like this ever happened between us. Let's say we did the thing 2 times a week, but when we did it, none of us initiated to do it again on the same day, or even the next day, ever! Thinking about this, I came to conlusion that my feelings towards my ex were less intense. I am not saying that I wasn't attracted or in love, because I was. But the feelings I have for current BF, as I realized, are deeper. The fact that I want to make love to him more often, in my opinion, does indicate that my attracton and feelings are stronger. So, do you think that a number of sexual encounters with a partner indicates the level of feelings? In other words: If you make love more often (with a certain partner) than you usually do, does it mean that: 1. your feelings are stronger 2. OR, you just feel more horny (and that's it)? Edited February 10, 2011 by greenwood
Mrlonelyone Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Not really. Witness the existence of "friends with benefits". Some people have been FWB longer than most people are married.
Author greenwood Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Not really. Witness the existence of "friends with benefits". Some people have been FWB longer than most people are married. Thanks Mrlonely, but I don't think the nature of relationship (FWB, marriage etc) is really relevant here, since some FWBs have more intimacy than some married couples.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Thanks Mrlonely, but I don't think the nature of relationship (FWB, marriage etc) is really relevant here, since some FWBs have more intimacy than some married couples. Physical intimacy =/= love.
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