I broke up with him, and feel horrid :(

[Lovingmargy]

Here is my story. This guy and I were together for two and a half years, he was my high school sweetheart, my first love. Our relationship went rocky for about a month, and after a fight he broke up with me. During our brake up I was torned, he dated three girls and he swore left and right that he hated me and I was the biggets mistake of his life. I moved on, and he came back. While he came back it was great, he was a gentleman, always so nice and told me just what I wanted to hear. But I did not trust him because during our break up he chaged. He became more of a partier and had lots of frieds that were girls, which made me very uncomfortable. During an argument( out of many) I told him I simply did not trust him. This got mad, and kept bringing up the subject, but never stop talking to this one girl he was with during our break up. I asked him to please stop talking to her, and he told no, that I would just have to trust him. I got mad at him and told him I would give him away from me to think about it. During that week I got sick with Influenza and went to the doctor. And I heard nothing from him, but he still managed to go out with his best friend and even talk to that certain girl...(which he works with) I had enough of it ad broke up with him. He told me he was hurt, that it is hard for him for me to break up with him, but I was better off because he did not know how to love me without hurting me. I love him, and I feel like I made a big mistake! I would love some advice! Thank you.

[Saphira]

I believe sometimes you can love someone and it still not be what you need. you may love him but i dont think he is right for you or vise versa. you both had been arguing alot, and what was the reason why he broke up with you the first time? all-in-all you cant have a relationship withought the proper communication, and trust. and you both seem to have nither of that. if you cant tell him how you feel without him flipping out, and you cant trust him then it will never work. he is your first love and always will be. nothing can change that and i think in some since you will always love him because he was your first. but as a long term relationship, i think you did the right thing. you need to find a guy who you can talk to and trust compleatly and it seems like you had non of those things with you first love after the initial break up. Dont think of it as a mistake, because it is not (in my oppinion) all breakups are hard, but you have to realize that your doing it from your own good. your relationship did not sound like a healthy one, and i think you made the right choice. good luck with everything.