jessy1 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 The urge to contact him this morning is overwhelmeing!! I have just moved from the house where we spent all our time together and I feel very sad and lonely in this new place. I cried as I moved out of my old house. I cried as I looked at the couch where we used to cuddle just little things like that. It will never happen again. This morning I woke up desperate to talk to him. Its been a month to date since everything happened and I still don't understand what happened. I have been thinking about him everyday for a month and have been trying to work out what happened. He was all over me, we were inseperable and he was telling people about 'us' then all of a sudden without me getting any prior warning he announces to our mutual friends he has a new gf and I had to find out that way. The only contact I got from him was wheh he approached me and told me 'I love my life sooo much right now, I am sooo happy'. and when I went NC 'Why are you grumpy at me? I will stay away from you for now on' That last on broke my heart as like I said we were inseperable and he kept telling me how he has never gotten on with someone so well and he doesn't want ot lose me etc etc. I miss him like crazy and this morning to urge to contact him is overwheleming. The urge to know what happened is killing me. I miss my old house and I miss him. I hate this! I am misrable. I know I shouldnt ask but I dont contact him and try and find out what really happened ay? Will I ever stop wondering and feeling misrable?\ I really hope so
smudge21 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 Hang in there. You do know for a fact it will get better and things will move on, but time really is your only healer. We all know exactly how you're feeling so don't feel alone. Sadly no matter what advice you get here, you will still do whatever you feel like doing. I know that, because I'm just the same - I can give advice all day yet still make the same mistakes. Just remember, don't beat yourself up over this. Making mistakes and learning from them is what makes us human. Just like me, you will get past this and come out the other side smiling. I have no doubt about that.
JasonRules Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 And why are you sitting about in the house mopping around? You need to start fresh by filling the void in your life right now. I would recommend you start hitting the gym on a daily basis after work. Stay there for 2-3 hours and keep yourself pre-occupied. Start planning outings with your friends. The more you stay alone at home and do nothing, the worse you're making it on yourself. Maintain no contact and delete his number from your cell. Remember this; try and get your body into the habit of doing things differently and your mind and heart will follow. DO NOT SIT AT HOME ALONE AND MOPE. DO NOT SIT AT HOME ALONE. Always keep moving.
depplover_1980 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 He has been a complete bastard to you and is not worthy. Get out and live a bit, force yourself to move on and the rest will follow...
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