GivenUp0083 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 I'm not sure which forum this classifies to go under but I'll throw it in here: I haven't posted much at all about my situation, primarily because everything has been going absolutely awesome with my girlfriend. We met thru okcupid, hit it off first date and have been in contact every day since. She only lives about 10 blocks from me so we see each other at least 4-5 times a week. We've been together almost 2 months but we've spent so much time together it feels like a lot longer. Everything is perfect with this girl, she likes me for who I am, she's respectful and kind, she's smart and can take of herself, she's very giving, thoughtful, she's gorgeous, has a smokin bod and the sex is amazing every single time. The best thing about her is our communication. We've both been open and honest about everything and we never run out of things to talk about. We really do feel comfortable talking about anything even this early in the relationship. She asked me a question last night while we were almost asleep: "Do you think you could see yourself falling in love with me?" I definitely like her a ton and I haven't been in many relationships in the past 7 years (only 1 really and I wasn't that into her) so I don't know at what point it's acceptable to feel so strongly about someone. I definitely see marriage potential in this girl, and I didn't know what to say, so I said "yes I could see that happening". She said the next morning "hey just forget about what I said, ok?" I said it was fine. I know there's no right or wrong answer here and maybe I'm just getting this off my chest as it threw me off guard. She has mentioned to me while being intimate in the past that she's "falling for me" but I don't know how serious it was or what context to take it into account at the time. I guess I'm looking for some random thoughts on this. Is it too early for her to be asking this? Should I take this as a red flag or is it natural to fall in love with someone in just a couple months?
ginger337 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 I don't see a red flag. There is no certain time line to fall for someone. Sometimes it can take weeks, sometimes years. This girl is obviously falling for you and was just asking to see where you stood on the matter. I think two months is a decent time to start figuring out those kind of feelings. However, with that said, don't be pressured to jump into "i love you" too quickly, as I have seen countless relationships ruined over that. Just feel things out. If she does say "I love you" before you're ready, just say you care about her a lot and are falling for her as well, but aren't ready to say it back.
tigressA Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 From what you say about your relationship and your GF here (and I've seen some other posts where you mention her), it seems rather solid. If I were in your situation, I would be falling for the guy too. Things like this don't follow some universal time line. All that really matters is that there's reciprocity, that there's not a major disparity between partners with regard to their feelings for each other. If you two are on the same page or close enough to it, then enjoy it.
philhatesyourlove Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 maybe I'm crazy or something, but I'm missing the problem with your apparent Godsend of a relationship. Embrace it. Don't look for flags. ....leave that to NASCAR
Feelin Frisky Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 She fished, you said the thing she wanted to hear and then she felt some recrimination about saying what she did and/or the way she said it. This is all just fine. Don't sweat it. Put it behind you and just move ahead with her. She sounds like a great package. Don't over-think.
LittleTiger Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 She fished, you said the thing she wanted to hear and then she felt some recrimination about saying what she did and/or the way she said it. This is all just fine. Don't sweat it. Put it behind you and just move ahead with her. She sounds like a great package. Don't over-think. Actually, I think she fished and you didn't say what she wanted to hear ie 'I've already fallen in love with you'. That's why she asked you to forget it - she was embarrassed to have brought the subject up and is worried you don't feel the same. Even so, I wouldn't worry about it. You two have a great thing going so just go with the flow. You already know her feelings are strong so if/when you feel ready to tell her what she wants to hear, at least you know you'll get a good reaction. I agree with Frisky, don't over-think. She sounds lovely.
Imajerk17 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 (edited) Sounds super-solid to me. It might be as Little Tiger said, it could also be that she is thinking ahead, as woman are prone to do. You don't want to say you love her until you are ready to say it though. How old are you both, by the way? Edited February 9, 2011 by Imajerk17
xpaperxcutx Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 If she's asking you that question, she's not only fishing but checking to make sure there's a go ahead for her feeling towards you. People today are hesitant about falling in love, at least when it comes to unrequited love. If she says she's falling for you, chances are she wants to make sure you feel the same vice versa.
Author GivenUp0083 Posted February 10, 2011 Author Posted February 10, 2011 Sounds super-solid to me. It might be as Little Tiger said, it could also be that she is thinking ahead, as woman are prone to do. You don't want to say you love her until you are ready to say it though. How old are you both, by the way? I'm 28, she's 26
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