choproyd Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 Hi All, I have been on about 4 dates with a girl I like a lot. We communicate everyday even if it is via text message. Prior to dating I had known her as a friend for over a year. It happens to be her birthday in a few days and she said she didnt have any plans so I said I would take her out as I cant have her staying home on her birthday. As it is so early in the dating stage what is appropiate for her birthday? Obviously dinner, I was also going to get her some music we both like as a present? My other issue is that I will be seeing her a couple days later as we are going to a Valentines dance kind of event at a local bar. These 2 dates are very close to eachother and I am not sure of the best way to approach it. When I take her out for her birthday for dinner should I just give her the valentines card/chocolates and the music I was thinking all at once? (even though it will be a few days before valentines day, I doubt I will see her on the actual day with it being a Monday and work, etc..). It might be kind of difficult to give her anything when meeting at the local bar as nobody wants to be carrying around things all night? Also, for the birthday dinner is it ok to ask her what her favorite place is? She is really into food so I would rather go somewhere she really likes as opposed to some random place I choose. Thanks for letting me ramble off these things, just trying to get my head straight as I do really like this girl.
Lilmisus Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 Since it's so early into dating (what, a few weeks?) you don't want to go too over the top, but you don't want to go too low either (I speak from experience, it wont be good). It's a great idea to ask where she wants to eat, and maybe ask if she wants to do some activity before or after together, like maybe movies, a walk in the park, museum, etc. Especially since she doesn't have any other plans, you really want to show her that you care about her on her birthday, without coming across as too serious too soon. Give her a cute little birthday present, maybe a little bracelet (not too expensive), a homemade birthday card, a happy birthday cupcake/small cake, etc. Nothing too big, just cute and thoughtful. If the music gift is supposed to be for her birthday, definitely go with that, but if you wanted it for more of a Valentine's day gift, wait to give it to her. You mentioned going someplace and didn't want her to carry it around all day, you know, they make cute and cheap little bags for holidays (not gift bags, more like cheap purses almost), if you don't want her to worry about holding all the things at once all night, try to find one, put it all inside of there, and let her use it to carry the goodies around in. The idea of mixing the two holidays though is not a good idea. One is supposed to celebrate her, and the other is supposed to celebrate your love(or new found relationship in this case), and to mix the two would make it less special. Although you don't have to go big and romantic on both dates, showing that you care both days is important. If you don't see her Valentines day, maybe do something the Sunday before, or sometime that week, and maybe shoot her a cute Valentines day call/text to show her that you're thinking of her even though you can't see her.
Art_Critic Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 No presents this early.. Dinner, a card and at the most flowers are a perfect choice though.. but no gifts other than those types that I mentioned.
Author choproyd Posted February 9, 2011 Author Posted February 9, 2011 Thanks for the reply. The issue is the whole valentines dance thing we are going to will be on the weekend at a club type of place. This will be the last time I see her before v-day. When your dancing and what not you dont want to worry carrying anything. For her birthday I think im just going to go with the music so she knows I have thought about her birthday. It just feels kind of weird giving her a card for her birthday and then one a day later for v-day? So im likely going to just give her the present/dinner, then on the weekend find a way to give her the v-day card and maybe some chocolate? Depending on where we go for her birthday I might try to pickup a small cake or something incase we go to my place. Man, I am overthinking this waaaay to much but I cant help it.
Cee Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 (edited) Your thread is interesting because I'm in a similar boat, but I'm a woman. I have just gotten into a relationship with a man, whose birthday is this weekend and Valentine's Day is Monday. Our thing is a little further along because we agreed this was now a relationship, not dating. But we've only been together 3 weeks. We've got the birthday covered. I'm going to meet him and his friends to celebrate his b-day. This makes me a bit nervous since it's the first time I'm meeting them. I'm going to give him a small, thoughtful gift. Don't know about the card thing. The card is the worst part for me. Store bought cards are pretty terrible & I could write a small note, but don't know what to write without sounding corny. Valentine's is covered in that we are going to a party at someone's house. It's not going to be a romantic date, just a fun hang out with my friends. No card for him. He and I don't like Valentine's Day so that one is easy. He's welcome to get me something, but I'm not expecting it. Keep me posted on how things go this weekend. Edited February 9, 2011 by Cee
Author choproyd Posted February 9, 2011 Author Posted February 9, 2011 Your thread is interesting because I'm in a similar boat, but I'm a woman. I have just gotten into a relationship with a man, whose birthday is this weekend and Valentine's Day is Monday. Our thing is a little further along because we agreed this was now a relationship, not dating. But we've only been together 3 weeks. We've got the birthday covered. I'm going to meet him and his friends to celebrate his b-day. This makes me a bit nervous since it's the first time I'm meeting them. I'm going to give him a small, thoughtful gift. Don't know about the card thing. The card is the worst part for me. Store bought cards are pretty terrible & I could write a small note, but don't know what to write without sounding corny. Valentine's is covered in that we are going to a party at someone's house. It's not going to be a romantic date, just a fun hang out with my friends. No card for him. He and I don't like Valentine's Day so that one is easy. He's welcome to get me something, but I'm not expecting it. Keep me posted on how things go this weekend. Thanks for the reply. I agree about the birthday card thing, I think I am going to skip it altogether. How did you come to the decision of being in a relationship? Who borught it up? Im not sure if I should just let things progress or bring it up. I would like for that to be the case, but things are going pretty slowly. We have only really had a few kisses.
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