thelostboy75 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 my gf of 13 year has just made it clear to me that she wants to give it a try again. We have been not together for the last 9 months. In this time I know she has done everything in her power to show me she was not going to give in and she has been look for NEW/Fresh start with other men. I know that she has been dating a lot and i know she was dating someone that she didn't end things in bad terms and she was close too. durning these 9 months- the last 3 or so. I was chasing her like a little puppy. evan knowing that she has been dating other people. i was still there trying to get and time with her. We've hooked up before and she made it clear afterwards that it didn't mean anything and not to get things confused ( this happen maybe twice about 4 months ago) after all the crying and the pain- i was starting to come into my own. I went out and started to see things in a different light and understood that she didn't want anything with me. One night of my going out. i happen to meet a person- which we hit it off very well. we share tons of things in common and we evan have an inside joke that we are reconnecting back after 7 years of not seeing each other. ---- off course this is just playful things we say------- straight from the gates we both feel comfortable have many hobbies in common. Feels like i known this person for many years. The ex is back: after me knowing the new person for about 3 weeks. Me and my ex started to go out to dinners, see movies and hanging out. me and my ex started to enjoy each others time again. my thinking was. is she doing this just to hang out??? I'm going to get the statement again "hey don't get this confused, we just having fun" i was just going with the flow and still having a great time with my new close friend. Now- My ex has declared that she broke it off with the person before me to start something new (which she never told me about). she wants a full commitment with me and move on together. That in the pass 6-7 months she was trying to lie to herself off the fact that she was over me= thus pushing me away and dating other people. What do I do with my new great friend. Its been about 6 weeks off greatness and we keep getting to know each other better and better. There tons of things i love/enjoy about my new friends- and somethings am not sure about. I know i love my ex which we have a 13 year old history which means tons to me too. But I stop for a min, and start thinking. is it fair/good timing on my ex side that since she is ready to make things work. That i should be too....?! she has never asked me if i was dating or if there was a person in my life. we never touched base on that subject. we just went with the ride. i told my new great friend about what is going on. I felt that i needed to be honest with her and she needs to know the truth. off course.. she didn't like it, but fully in understanding and she is taking things very well. my ex and I are suppose to sit and have a face to face talk about where this is going if anything. since i told her recently that i don't see us fully in a exclusive thing. Can anyone share your thoughts... is it fair for my ex NOW that she wants things to work out... that it will?? With out asking or understanding that i was pulling my piece back together. Should i go with my ex of 13 years in hopes that we can have a CLEAN start. Should i stay and see where things can go with my new great friend????
eeazee Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Sorry mate this is really tricky. First, you have to ask yourself these questions.. Do I really want to be with my ex ? Can we resolve the problem we had in the past without it repeating itself again ? Do I want to pass through the same drama again ? And you have to think with your brains this time and not your emotions. Sometimes women can be very tricky. She might be interested in having you back because she knows you have a new GF. Some ex's hates to see the bf move on.Trust me my ex did that to me four times. Here is a suggestion. You have to really think about it all and weigh your options.
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