Woggle Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I want to ask the women who are getting on men for their preferences a question. If you were a man and you wanted a happy that lasted what would you do? Men are just trying to prevent a divorce in the future.
january2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I want to ask the women who are getting on men for their preferences a question. If you were a man and you wanted a happy that lasted what would you do? Men are just trying to prevent a divorce in the future. I'd look for someone supportive, kind, compassionate and empathetic.
Woggle Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 I'd look for someone supportive, kind, compassionate and empathetic. If men want that we are accused of wanting stepford wives.
january2011 Posted February 17, 2011 Posted February 17, 2011 If men want that we are accused of wanting stepford wives. I'm not going to accuse you of wanting a Stepford Wife.
zengirl Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I think it's got nothing to do with smarts, personally. I'm a smart woman. I've had many smart boyfriends who loved that I was a smart woman. I find smart people like other smart people, though smart women care more about finding smart men than smart men care about 'smart' as relates to women (in terms of highly measurable or academic smarts; I know few men who want a woman who is idiotic or lacking in common sense). That often puts very smart, successful women at a disadvantage, as they haven't spent their time working on their other potential virtues but only pushing their smarts and success. Men don't fall in love with brains and success; I observe that some women do, though I question that particular strategy as well. (But, I do find people like people who share their interests, and smarts has something to do with that.) I think, personally, that men fall in love with a woman's heart, compassion, energy, and how she makes him feel. And, frankly, that's not a bad thing to fall in love with. It's what I fall for in a guy, too. He also has to want to talk to her (brains) and want to sleep with her (beauty) to fall in love generally, but head + body without heart = no love. Just my view of things, as they tend to go. Yet I know many smart women who want to be loved for their brains, and I just don't think that's the way love goes, really, except perhaps for those smart women conditioned that way, for whatever reason. A good relationship involves interdependence. I agree with this. Mutual interdependence. He has to rely on her, and she has to rely on him, and it doesn't really matter how. And it also can't be codependence, which is an entirely different animal. I do think mutual, consensual interdependence is the key to love and lasting relationships. You're onto something there.
nwsingleguy Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I'm turned on by women with brains, but a lot of other men are turned off by them. It's generally well known that less intelligent people enjoy sex more. Dummies have us brainiacs beat in bed, hands down. __________________ Response to earlier post above by Dissillusionist. Actually believe it or not, the higher the education level the woman has, the more kinkier she tends to be. This is actually based on multiple studies by Human Sexuality professors. So guys, if you are looking for great sex, studies show that you should date the most intelligent and educated woman you can.
Woggle Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Another thing is what constitutes brains? Many people have their degrees and know plenty of books but have zero life smarts or relationship smarts. Life is more than what you learn in a classroom or get from a book. I'm not saying books smarts don't matter but if a person has no smarts in other areas of life then what is the point. Nobody wants to be with an intellectual snob who looks down their nose at everybody.
Knittress Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 Response to earlier post above by Dissillusionist. Actually believe it or not, the higher the education level the woman has, the more kinkier she tends to be. This is actually based on multiple studies by Human Sexuality professors. So guys, if you are looking for great sex, studies show that you should date the most intelligent and educated woman you can. I actually think there are a large quantity of men who are just as threatened by a kinky woman as they are an intelligent one. So rather than a positive observation, I'd say this research is potentially double-damning.
GooseChaser Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I don't care how many guys I would turn off by having brains; it isn't going to hold me back from gaining knowledge! Their loss!
PerpetualMotion Posted February 18, 2011 Posted February 18, 2011 I find women with brains a turn on. What turns me off is when people have a sense of superiority, no matter where it comes from.
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