StoneCold Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 Females with brains but are confident in themselves and feel like they dont have to prove anything to anybody.... turn on Female with brains that has a chip on her shoulder as a result .... turn off
Akumark Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 I will be perfectly honest here, for dating I NEED a brainy girl. They are the best partner and are always fun to chat/live/travel with. BUT from my experience they are also the worst sex partners I had in term of libido, they just don't seam to need IT everyday
bayouboi Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 def a turnoff, and if they ain't droolin' then they 2 smurt
sydneysider1978 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 Scott - I agree to some extent. A small portion of guys say they're not sure what it is an ask me to elaborate. This in itself involves not knowing something which some guys are bad at. I really hope I don't have a chip on my shoulder but it's hard not to feel affected when I get the reactions I do. On time a nice golf-pro was chatting to me. I told him what he did and he initially sounded semi-interested. A few minutes later he had his head in his hands on the table. I asked him what was up and he said something like, you seem really nice but you're so smart I don't know what to say to you. Gah! Akumark - seriously? Intelligence equates to low sex drive? Not with the girlies I know. MrLonelyOne - you get it. That link has given me food for thought.
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 @sydneysider1978 Women are the same way. People will say that they are attracted to smarts....just so long as one is not too smart. For me it usually goes like this. Actually I might be an exception. I don't think there is such a thing as too smart for me. But I am around IQ130 to start. And I prefer people who are smarter then me, even alot smarter. My daughter has never been tested, but her brain seems like a computer to me. In her 1st week of year 7, she came home (she got into selective) and said, "I don't know how any of these kids got into selective, they don't even understand any of my jokes", because she is intelligent across the board, not just good at taking tests. Personally I think she is the coolest person I have ever met, even if she does think I am mentally retarded.
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Thank you. You might want to come back on Thursdays --- It's double coupon day. It's Thursday and I'm here. All ready to
dispatch3d Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 lol. The average graduating IQ of chemical engineers is 127.5. Way above the population mean (and like 4th highest of all degrees). I wish I was bragging but it really isn't a brag. Being smart has downsides. I'm unsure of whether to tell people what kind of stuff I'm into or not. They react strangely, sometimes get uncomfortable or insecure. So I mean, I'd prefer they were happy rather than getting insecure? Ya know. I also notice my ability to stay on task for long periods of time, my extreme amount of patience, etc. is all pretty typical for my degree. I really enjoy challenging things as well (besides dating! lol). Anyhow, bah humbug! just kidding i"m in a good mood.
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 lol. The average graduating IQ of chemical engineers is 127.5. That explains why I was more intelligent than my ex husband. He must have been a mere 127.5.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 @Titania22 Depending on which test an IQ of 130 or 132 puts you in the top 2% of people in terms of basic intelligence. So it makes sense someone who is near that level would be compatible with you. @sydneysider1978 Women can be the same way. I know a number of very bright people who purposefully underachieve in order to appear as normal as possible. I have even been told to lie about what I study in order to avoid this problem.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 (edited) Check this out. http://science.discovery.com/tv/ingenious-minds/ Interestingly 3 of the top 5 giant brains according to them belong to theoretical physicist... http://science.discovery.com/top-ten/2009/giant-brains/giant-brains-4.html Edited February 10, 2011 by Mrlonelyone
mtber75 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Men are not turned off by women who are much more educated or much richer. But men are intimidated by women who are much more educated or much richer. Personally I stay away from women who are more educated or wealthier than me. Its not because I dont like them. In fact I do. But its just that like other men, Im socially conditioned to believe that women dont respect men who are less in status. So better not start it in the first place then start it and dumped later. This is true! I love a brain but if she shows it off too much than I get little intimidated. But I show off my career statue to women!
Ruby Slippers Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 This has always been a problem for me. I'm smarter than your average Jane, and probably somewhere in the cute range for looks. When I look OK and show my smarts, it gets me nowhere with men. When I look girlier and play a little dumb, men LOVE IT. I figured this out in high school. The problem is I don't want to pretend. I want to be myself, to be appreciated for who I am. So for now, I am using my smarts to kick butt in my career and life, and doing without a man. I would like to be with a good guy, but I'm not willing to pretend to be someone I'm not make that happen.
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 @Titania22 Depending on which test an IQ of 130 or 132 puts you in the top 2% of people in terms of basic intelligence. So it makes sense someone who is near that level would be compatible with you. This can't be right. I definately don't think I am that smart. But I was definately smarter than my chemical engineer ex husband who was always looking down on other people.
Mrlonelyone Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 This can't be right. I definately don't think I am that smart. But I was definately smarter than my chemical engineer ex husband who was always looking down on other people. It's true Quoted from Wikipedia Mensa's only requirement for membership is that one score at or above the 98th percentile on certain standardized IQ or other approved intelligence tests, such as the Stanford-Binet Intelligence Scales. Because different tests are scaled differently, it is not meaningful to compare raw scores between tests, only percentiles. For example, the minimum accepted score on the Stanford-Binet is 132, while for the Cattell it is 148. You mention your husband looking down on other people... in what way? I have mentioned that people of normal IQ (about 100) look at people of IQ of about 70 and expect less of them. Why should a person of high IQ..98th percentile..the top 2%... not expect less of someone of normal IQ? The normal IQ person would not have the 70 IQ person balance their checkbook. The high IQ person would not have the 100 IQ person solve their differential geometry problem/ perform brain surgery. Inteligence is no different than
musemaj11 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 This has always been a problem for me. I'm smarter than your average Jane, and probably somewhere in the cute range for looks. When I look OK and show my smarts, it gets me nowhere with men. When I look girlier and play a little dumb, men LOVE IT. I figured this out in high school. The problem is I don't want to pretend. I want to be myself, to be appreciated for who I am. So for now, I am using my smarts to kick butt in my career and life, and doing without a man. I would like to be with a good guy, but I'm not willing to pretend to be someone I'm not make that happen. All you need to do is be more aggressive in order to let him know that you are still interested despite him being 'less'. As I said earlier, generally men are intimidated by women who are better than them not because they dont like it, but its because they just assume they are not good enough and discount themselves.
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 You mention your husband looking down on other people... in what way? The high IQ person would not have the 100 IQ person solve their differential geometry problem. My EX husband had to go to therapists a few times, but apparently he always found them to be stupid, so of course wouldn't take the therapy seriously. (Honestly he is a complete psychopath, but I am not about to tell him that.) Mmmm trying to solve a differential geometry problem, now that's what I call foreplay.
Taramere Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 I grew up in the country, so I have some links with the farming community - and every now and again I'd find myself in some farmhouse dispensing hundreds of pounds of legal advice in return for "stay for tea" and a bottle of £5 sherry at Christmas. Of course they liked me. What sane farmer wouldn't rub his hands with avaricious glee the sight of a healthy bit of female flesh who's fit enough looking to be useful around the farm, sharp enough to do the books and is a lawyer to boot? Whether it's appealing, as a woman, to be regarded in canny, utilitarian terms is a different matter...but yes, I think pragmatic men tend to be pro smart women, as long as they can see ways of making that woman's intelligence work in their favour.
Lovelybird Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 but yes, I think pragmatic men tend to be pro smart women, as long as they can see ways of making that woman's intelligence work in their favour. This is a sad line of thinking. If you come to think of it, really a lover can make your heart satisfied and fulfilled? maybe nobody knows it, everyone is thinking others got it except of himself/herself. everyone is chasing after something, something more. A single is chasing after a dream of having a lover, a lover is chasing after a dream of a marriage or more perfect love, a married woman/man is chasing after another man/woman (affair), there is always something to work on to chase after, and bottomless of unsatisfaction
Taramere Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 This is a sad line of thinking. What's sad about people making decisions that work in their interests rather than against them? It might not be the most romantic way for a man to approach a woman, but partnership isn't all about idealism and romance is it? It's also about two people being able to work together. Ultimately if a uses his brain in selecting a woman then he's probably more likely to make a good long term choice that works out well for everyone concerned.
Lovelybird Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 What's sad about people making decisions that work in their interests rather than against them? It might not be the most romantic way for a man to approach a woman, but partnership isn't all about idealism and romance is it? It's also about two people being able to work together. Ultimately if a uses his brain in selecting a woman then he's probably more likely to make a good long term choice that works out well for everyone concerned. Because that sounds utilitarian than love and appreciate another human being. but I realize probably most of people fall into utilitarian category
musemaj11 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 This is a sad line of thinking. If you come to think of it, really a lover can make your heart satisfied and fulfilled? maybe nobody knows it, everyone is thinking others got it except of himself/herself. everyone is chasing after something, something more. A single is chasing after a dream of having a lover, a lover is chasing after a dream of a marriage or more perfect love, a married woman/man is chasing after another man/woman (affair), there is always something to work on to chase after, and bottomless of unsatisfaction I suppose u like men with no job then? After all love is all that matters right?
Ross PK Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Not really. But if I was with a woman who was a lot more intelligent than me, then it would feel pretty weird.
EasyHeart Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Where are these alleged women with brains? SEND THEM TO ME ASAP!!!
Titania22 Posted February 10, 2011 Posted February 10, 2011 Where are these alleged women with brains? SEND THEM TO ME ASAP!!! In Australia. You better come and here to get them.
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