nietsdoen Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 About a week ago, he sat next to me in my community college class and randomly asked me in the middle of class to get together sometime for the next test, and he later added me on facebook. Without me ever telling him my name (he obviously must have actively figured it out by looking at my assignments and such). He was curious about my classes and everything. When I asked him what he was up to this weekend (now this last weekend), he said nothing, and I said yeah I'm not doing anything either, and he didn't really say anything. Well, yesterday we talked some more and that was before he added me. We seemed to connect well; I mean, he kept saying little things to me in class and it made me smile. Well, it turns out that he's a Christian, and that's all well and good, but I'm a pantheist (I believe the universe is equal to God) and that religions all have their own way or reaching higher consciousness and getting to God, but I have Jesus in my heart so really I'm a Christian as well. And I didn't tell him this until today. Anyway, I basically told him on IM yesterday that I am a Christian, but not in the conventional sense and it's complicated. Then today I caught up with him and said I was going for a walk down to the local coffee shop and if he'd like to come with. He said no, he had some things to do, and since I know he's not really on a schedule, I said, well you could do that after. And he was like yeah.. So he came. And we talked and it was easy talking to him and I got juice and he got something and I was like, where do you want to sit, and he was like, oh I should really get going back, so I was like oh.. and we walked back. I then explained in full my religious beliefs, and we talked about Christianity -- how I am one but there are some things about conventional Christianity I don't agree with. Then we got to talking about the class and he asked me when the test was and said we should meet up somewhere to study for it, and I was like, where? And he was like, well I guess my basement, it has speakers so we could listen to music etc etc. It's all very confusing. And now I feel really embarrassed about the walk thing. What do you think? I've tried convincing myself that I should just forget him because it's not worth it and he probably doesn't like me because I'm not a strict, rigid Christian (I'm really very open), and he is, but I don't know. I really have no clue at all. But anyway, I can't just forget him without knowing or getting some idea if he does in fact like me.
utterer of lies Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 It's all very confusing. And now I feel really embarrassed about the walk thing. What do you think? I've tried convincing myself that I should just forget him because it's not worth it and he probably doesn't like me because I'm not a strict, rigid Christian (I'm really very open), and he is, but I don't know. I really have no clue at all. But anyway, I can't just forget him without knowing or getting some idea if he does in fact like me. I think things are going well, you're both pretty young and confused and awkward. While his initial refusal to get a drink with you is a negative sign, his suggesting his basement is a positive one. Just keep contact and see what happens. On a side note: why are you so obsessed with explaining your religion to him?
Author nietsdoen Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 I think things are going well, you're both pretty young and confused and awkward. While his initial refusal to get a drink with you is a negative sign, his suggesting his basement is a positive one. Just keep contact and see what happens. On a side note: why are you so obsessed with explaining your religion to him? Because I didn't want to scare him away with my pantheism. A lot of Christians don't want to date a non-Christian, so I wanted him to know I am one, just not strictly/rigidly. Thanks for your insight! I still don't know if he just wants to be friends. I feel hurt and rejected a bit, but I guess only time will tell.
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