Author JasonRules Posted February 11, 2011 Author Posted February 11, 2011 Yes, that is good work Jason - very pleased with how that went for you and it sounds like good food for thought. I hope you are not intiating any of the contact still from now on? I take it Monday is off? No, she is initiating most of the contact. As for Monday, I'm not sure. She said she'll think about it, but I'm not going to mention it again or pressure her. I think she'll slowly come around. I just need to take my sweet time and use my charm and charisma to woo her back to me. Remember, that when two people first meet and they fall for each other something about you got them going. I'm going to go back to being that guy again. All this drama had drained my energy, but the 2 weeks apart, gym, and the idea that it's okay to let her go has made me one cool confident cat once again.
fetish Posted February 12, 2011 Posted February 12, 2011 good for you jason. i'm in the process of a pre-break up since last night with a girl i've been with for 8 years. she's going to move out next month and be separated in the mean time while she stays with one of her girlfriends. We had plans of getting married but she's been drifting away due to her gambling habits and gets mad when i mention anything about it. I'm going to use your story as words of encouragement, only i don't even want to get it in my head of any hopes of us getting back together. I love her but at this point, i feel I've been giving her my best. I'm always home, haven't cheated on her in over 5 years and i think she's been taking my kindness for weakness and taking me for granted. I think its true when people assume that nice guys get taken for doormats. There's some truth to that. So i say all that to say, don't make yourself too available. I think you're already on the right track and you realize you need to keep her @ bay, no matter how much you love her. Because once she realizes that she can get you back any time, she'll use it against you and think she can do what she wants. Not saying she's a horrible person, its just human nature to take what we have for granted. So be careful with your heart dude.
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