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While it is important to be on the lookout for red flags when dating you also don't want to write her off too soon on the 1st sign of a red flag. Why? because usually genuine red flags have patterns that follow them. It's not just an isolated incident that happens once.

 

Like for example if you go out on the date & she doesn't touch you even once- not even a light tap on your arm or leg for 1/2 a second that is a red flag. If it's only the 1st date then I would let it slide for now. Go out with her one more time & see if she touches you then. If she still doesn't then you know she has low interest in you & you should move on.

 

The thing is you want to be 100% sure of a red flag before writing her off. You don't want to be only 90% sure because then later that 10% doubt will come in your mind & you'll think "well maybe I shouldn't have written her off so soon. I should have gone out with her once more to see if there are other red flags". Nagging doubts can be annoying.

 

If on the 2nd date she touches your arm & the two of you have a great time & she laughs at your jokes then what happened on the 1st date was just an isolated incident.

 

So it's good to be on the lookout for red flags but also don't be quick to write her off on the 1st red flag until you get more time in with her to see if it's just an isolated incident that goes away on its own or if there's a pattern.

 

Or let's say you two have been in an exclusive relationship and you've had sex regularly like 6 nights a week but then out of the blue one night she says she's too tired for sex. That's a yellow flag for the time being until you get more information later. How often does she say she's too tired for sex? If it's an isolated incident that happens once a month then no big deal.

 

If it's a pattern where she's been too tired every night for the past 2-3 weeks then you have a problem. Even then you're going to suspend judgment on her interest level in you until you rule out other possibilities such as medical problems, depression, medications she's taking that have side effects on her sex drive, etc.

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Tiger is plagierizing a book called "the System" by Doc Love and just typing out certain chapters to discuss. He's taking credit for the ideas and thoughts so don't be fooled by his ignorance and theft.

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Tiger is plagierizing a book called "the System" by Doc Love and just typing out certain chapters to discuss. He's taking credit for the ideas and thoughts so don't be fooled by his ignorance and theft.

 

Presumably that is copyrighted, no?

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Presumably that is copyrighted, no?

 

I guarantee its copywrited....he charges $100 per book per the website

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too late. I already ditched a girl I like because she asked me for my number on the 2nd date.

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I wonder how Doc Love would feel if someone were to "accidentally" send a link to this thread. I can see the copyright infringement subpoenas flying now...

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Tiger is plagierizing a book called "the System" by Doc Love and just typing out certain chapters to discuss. He's taking credit for the ideas and thoughts so don't be fooled by his ignorance and theft.

 

Tiger is not even Tiger. He is Chris250 (amongst others- Dave200, Jane100, etc etc). Long-term LS troll.

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Tiger is plagierizing a book called "the System" by Doc Love and just typing out certain chapters to discuss. He's taking credit for the ideas and thoughts so don't be fooled by his ignorance and theft.

 

Well, the book seems to be crap, too. I wonder if the original is also so focused on percentages?

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Well, the book seems to be crap, too. I wonder if the original is also so focused on percentages?

 

I actually read it cuz my roommate a few years ago had it and raved about it.

 

It's not total crap, it basically teaches men with no skills in dealing with women what kind of mindset they need to have, as well as what to look for in a woman. It also helps a guy realize when he's wasting his time with a woman and helps make sense of the confusing things some girls do.

 

What I don't like is the "rules" you're supposed to follow. There's a lot of great women out there that would be turned off by the things this book says to do as a man.

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I actually read it cuz my roommate a few years ago had it and raved about it.

 

It's not total crap, it basically teaches men with no skills in dealing with women what kind of mindset they need to have, as well as what to look for in a woman. It also helps a guy realize when he's wasting his time with a woman and helps make sense of the confusing things some girls do.

 

What I don't like is the "rules" you're supposed to follow. There's a lot of great women out there that would be turned off by the things this book says to do as a man.

But is that not generalizing all women? Different women act in diff ways. Maybe a girl doesn't like touching on the first two dates but would actually end up sleeping with the man on the 3rd date. Based on this book I would have just lost my chance to score :p

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