tiger20 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I'm not really a fan of giving a woman my phone number until after the 3rd or 4th date. When we have just met I want to get her phone number first. That's why I ask for her phone number instead of giving her mine. When a woman asks for the guy's number without giving him hers when they haven't even gotten to the 1st date it's very fishy. That means she's secretly married or has a boyfriend that she's trying to keep him in the dark about & doesn't want to risk him calling her house & her husband/boyfriend answering the phone. The other possibility is that she has low interest level and is trying to let him down nicely by asking for his number instead of telling him that she doesn't want to give him her number. I also don't believe in exchanging numbers. Besides the above I think it's better that the woman doesn't call at all in the early stages of dating. It kills challenge if she has my number & then calls & texts non-stop. That will also drive me nuts. Some women suffer from a bad case of telephoneitis & it only gets worse when you get married. So I don't want her to have my number until after a few dates. Since most people have caller ID these days I just call her from a store phone like Walmart so that my phone number doesn't show up on her caller ID. So these are all good reasons not to give her your number too early. If she asks for it just tell her "I'm not sure I should give it to you at this time because the last woman I dated would blow up my phone with 100 missed calls in a day. So I'm a little gunshot about that".
SmileFace Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Who goes out on dates with out having the other person number? You mean to say you go on 3-4 dates with a women and don't have their number ?
Author tiger20 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 Who goes out on dates with out having the other person number? You mean to say you go on 3-4 dates with a women and don't have their number ? No. I make sure I get her number when I first meet her. I talk to her for about 30-35 minutes & then ask for her phone number. What I said was that I don't give her my number until we get 3 or 4 dates in.
SmileFace Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 Damn, if I didn't have an ethics paper due in two hours. I will have stayed for the entertainment. Darn!
mo mo Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 No. I make sure I get her number when I first meet her. I talk to her for about 30-35 minutes & then ask for her phone number. What I said was that I don't give her my number until we get 3 or 4 dates in. That's funny because I don't believe that anyone would actually go out with you, considering your approach.
GivenUp0083 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I don't even know what country (or planet) you're from, but I thought dating in America was tricky....I can't imaging how tough dating is in your country when you don't exchange phone numbers until after 3-4 dates. I have so many questions! 1. What "world" country is yours? You must not have caller ID on your cellphones yet, cuz if you got her number then called her to set up the next date then she would have your number if it were America. 2. If you do have caller ID, how do you set up date 2, let alone dates 3 and 4, without calling her? Do you set the next date up at the end of the previous date? What if something comes up and one of you can't make it? 3. Do you make a lot of posts hating on girls for standing you up?
SmileFace Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 I don't even know what country (or planet) you're from, but I thought dating in America was tricky....I can't imaging how tough dating is in your country when you don't exchange phone numbers until after 3-4 dates. I have so many questions! 1. What "world" country is yours? You must not have caller ID on your cellphones yet, cuz if you got her number then called her to set up the next date then she would have your number if it were America. 2. If you do have caller ID, how do you set up date 2, let alone dates 3 and 4, without calling her? Do you set the next date up at the end of the previous date? What if something comes up and one of you can't make it? 3. Do you make a lot of posts hating on girls for standing you up? I this
oaks Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 I'm not really a fan of giving a woman my phone number until after the 3rd or 4th date. How's this strategy working for you? Had many 3rd dates?
somedude81 Posted February 9, 2011 Posted February 9, 2011 LOL some crazy stuff in this thread. I'll just point out the valid parts. When a woman asks for the guy's number without giving him hers when they haven't even gotten to the 1st date it's very fishy. The other possibility is that she has low interest level and is trying to let him down nicely by asking for his number instead of telling him that she doesn't want to give him her number. There it is. When a girl refuses to give you her number but asks for yours instead, it's a red flag.
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