coltsfan1 Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 (edited) I went to out with a few friends from work to a club downtown and ran into my ex and some of or "mutual friends." I didn't speak to them and they didn't speak to me. These are the same people that told me they didn't want to hang out with her. But back to the point I kind of wish i hadn't went, I don't want to be involved in the stupid drama anymore, I am going to walk away from these people. But I am wondering why I feel foolish for being there, some of my other friends told me that it is better to find out now and that I did nothing wrong I left them alone and they know that I am going to have fun without them. Was also told that I can go to any public place I see fit too. But my question is should I feel foolish or am I just dealing with the fact that the people I thought were looking out for me are truly just phony friends? Any thoughts? Edited February 8, 2011 by coltsfan1
cerridwen Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 You have zero reason to feel foolish--hurt and betrayed maybe but not foolish. It's likely your mutual friends feel embarrassed (as they should) that you busted them. Sorry that happened. You didn't deserve more negative feelings heaped on you. You now have a better idea of who your real friends are. Eyes forward. Let's keep moving.
Author coltsfan1 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 thank you cerridwin.. I still feel like a douche for being there but I now know who i need to spend less time with and who is really honest with me. Im not really hurt as I kind of figured this was going on. I just wish things hadn't played out like this and I wish that I could just put it in a box, sometimes I feel like all I want to do is crawl into a hole. I havent been myself cause of all the nonsense but better to find out now then later....
cerridwen Posted February 8, 2011 Posted February 8, 2011 YOU are allowed to go wherever you da*n well please. Why shouldn't you be there?!?! THEY did a crappy thing. They're full of b.s.. AND they know it. You've retained your integrity and image. Boo on them! When a bit more time goes by, you'll be able to shrug about it. Honestly. Think you'll care about this a year from now? Unlikely. You got bigger fish to fry. It will fade into the distance as you keep tooling down the road. For now, no worries about feeling foolish.
Author coltsfan1 Posted February 8, 2011 Author Posted February 8, 2011 again thank you for the encouraging words. I don't know why but I feel better when I get told the samething over and over again. I guess I just have to deal with the way things panned out. The people that were there kept her secret to begin with so I really shouldn't be surprised and I truly am not. I am looking forward to the day that this is all old news and I have met someone who cares for me the way I care for them.
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